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7 Reasons Why You Will Never Do Anything Amazing With Your Life [Updated With Audio]

A unique perspective on what it takes to succeed in life.

“To follow the path that others have laid before you is a reasonable course of action, therefore all progress is made by unreasonable men.”

-Steve Jobs

Yeah that’s right; you heard me… I’m talking to you… I’m calling you out.

I’m looking you in the eyes, (ok well, not really since you are probably reading this article, but figuratively, I am burning a cyclops type hole in your face right now) and telling you that you don’t stand a chance.

I’m telling you that if you can read this article, look through this list and not claim it as your own, then you should be a little worried.

Actually, you should be very worried. You should drop everything and immediately question your existence on earth. You should find a mirror, look yourself in the eyes, raise your hand and slap yourself in the face.

Got it? Now repeat that until you come to your senses and continue reading whenever you’re ready.

I’m Talkin’ Bout Street Skills Son!

I’m not talking about the: study hard, party light, graduate top-of-your-class skills.

I’m not even talking about the: slack-off, skip class, smoke weed, drink and party but still graduate, skill-set your $50,000+ diploma has lead you to believe you have.

“I’m talking ’bout, step out your door, make some moves, and get-some-shit-done, kind of skills! Some, move out your mama’s house, quit your job — say “fuck the world” — and then actually go do it, kind of skills”.

The kind of skills you develop in the real world, outside the bubble of your parents protection or the ideological indoctrination that has overwhelmed our entire educational system.

Skills that can be had by anyone willing to pay the price to get them. Skills that are quickly becoming extinct.

I’m talking about skills that cannot be taught in a classroom or in a textbook. Skills you can only learn by doing; by learning how to fly after jumping off the cliff.

Skills that can only be developed when you find your true self. When you put yourself on the line or otherwise expose yourself to the possibility of failure.

The skills you can only develop when you are willing to risk it all in order to do that one amazing thing.

Skills that up until now, you thought you had.

“Basically, what I am trying to tell you is that, in this game called life, you don’t stand a chance…

1 :: Because You Have Not Failed Enough

Because you are comfortable in your mediocrity; because you choose not to try.

Because it is easier to talk about learning that new (programming?) language as opposed to actually learning it.

Because you think everything is too hard or too complicated so you will just “sit this one out”, or maybe you’ll, “do-it-tomorrow”!

Because you hate your job but won’t get a new one; because it is easy to reject rejection.

Because while you’re sitting around failing to try, I  am out there trying to fail, challenging myself, learning new things and failing as fast as possible.

Because as I fail, I learn, and then adjust my course to make sure my path is always forward. Like the process of annealing steel, I’ve been through the fire and pounded into shape. The shape of a sword with polished edges and a razor sharp blade that will cut you in half if you are not equally hardened.

2 :: Because You Care What Others Think About You

Because you have to fit in.

Because you believe that being different is only cool if you’re different in the same way that other people are different.

Because you are afraid to embrace your true self for fear of how the world will see you. You think that because you judge others, this means that those people must, in-turn, be judging you.

Because you care more about the stuff you have as opposed to the things you’ve done.

Because while you’re out spending your money on new outfits, new cars, overpriced meals or nights at the bar, I’ll be investing in myself. And while you try to fit in with the world I’ll make the world fit in with me.

Because I will recklessly abandon all insecurities and expose my true self to the world. I will become immune to the impact of your opinion and stand naked in a crowd of ideas; comfortable in knowing that while you married the mundane I explored the exceptional.

3 :: Because You Think You Are Smarter Than You Are

Because you did what everyone else did; you studied what they studied and read what they read.

Because you learned what you had to learn in order to pass their tests and you think that makes you smart.

Because you think learning is only something people do in schools.

Because while you were away at college, I was studying life; because instead of learning about the world in a classroom I went out and learned it by living.

Because I know more than any piece of paper you could ever frame from a university. Because smart is not what you learn, it’s how you live.

Because I might not have a degree but I challenge you to find a topic that I can’t talk to you about cohesively.

Because I could pass your tests if I had to, but you couldn’t stand for a single second in the face of the tests that life has thrown me. Tests that are not graded on a bell curve or by percentages; tests that are graded by one simple stipulation: survival!

4 :: Because You Don’t Read

Because you read the things you are required to read or nothing at all.

Because you think history is boring and philosophy is stupid.

Because you would rather sit and watch “E!” or “MTV” instead of exploring something new, instead of diving head first, into the brain of another man in an attempt to better understand the world around you.

Because you refuse to acknowledge that all the power in the world comes from the words of those that lived before us. That anything you desire can be had by searching through the multitude of words that are available to us now more abundantly than ever before.

Because you are probably not reading this article even though you know you should.

Because the people that are reading this already know these things.

Because you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.

5 :: Because You Lack Curiosity

Because you get your news from copy-cat members of the state-controlled media.

Because you are unwilling to ask this simple question… “What if it’s all a lie?”, and accept the possibility that maybe it is; that just maybe, the methods of mass media are under direct orders to: keep you distracted.

Because you call me a know-it-all but refuse to call yourself a know-nothing-at-all.

Because I thirst for knowledge, regardless the topic.

Because while you’re busy playing Candy Crush, or Megalopolis, I am reading about string theory and quantum mechanics.

Because while you waste your time with Tosh.o I am learning how to edit video, build websites and design mobile apps.

Because if we were to go heads-up in a debate, I would crush you. I would make it a point to defeat my own argument; from every imaginable angle;  in order to understand everything you might be able to use against me.

Because I would dedicate myself to understanding both sides of the argument so thoroughly that I could argue your side for you and win; even after having just handed you a defeat in the same debate.

6 :: Because You Don’t Ask Enough Questions

Because you do not question authority.

Because you don’t question yourself.

Because you don’t understand the power of properly placed questioning in life, respectful disagreements and standing up for what you know to be right in the face of someone telling you otherwise. Unable to question reality; stuck in a self imposed survival strategy within a matrix-style monotony.

Because I know that you will give me all the information I need to destroy you by letting you talk.

Because I study human behaviors and you ignore everyone but yourself.

Because I watch how you say the things you say just as closely as I listen to what you say; and you say way too much!

Because control comes, not from spewing your ignorance like some incurable case of logorrhea, but from properly structuring the context of your questions.

Because I study the premise of your argument and destroy it from the ground level before you even get a chance to establish your ideas.

7 :: Because You Can’t Handle The Truth

Because you refuse to admit that you don’t even know the things you don’t know.

Because there isn’t an article online that would make up for all the time you have wasted in life.

Because even if I told you everything could be different tomorrow you would wait until then to begin doing anything about it.

Because even when you think I’m not, I’m aware of my surroundings.

Because you think that since I have not acknowledged you, it means that I have not seen you.

Because, you walk around with your head up your ass, oblivious to the world around you. Blissfully ignorant of the reality that sits so close to your face that if you stuck your tongue out, just once, you would taste it and realize how delicious the truth actually is.

Because you would become an instant addict. Unable to pull yourself from the teat of truth. Finally able to understand your lack of understanding, and then you would see; then you would know that the only thing holding you back from doing something truly amazing, is you.

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  1. Yourjustsosmart
    Yourjustsosmart says:

    I shared this but I also prefaced it with this is kinda pretentious horseshit. Pretty much a know it all rant. That has more to do with how much weed you smoke and watch other people live while you squeal.

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  2. Martin Gifford
    Martin Gifford says:

    Steve Jobs is a Mainstream Sheep

    People in the Matrix try to pretend that super successful people transcend the Matrix. But by definition, you can’t succeed in the Matrix unless you are in the Matrix. Steve Jobs’s success is due to his complete submission to the Matrix.

    The Matrix is about seeking great success or eking out sufficient happiness from working hard in the Matrix. Successful people are used as sticks beating us on the back to try harder to be like them.

    On a personal note, I REALLY did all the things in Raymmar’s list. Two of the things I created are completely extraordinary, i.e. outside of the Matrix. Therefore, I am not successful in the Matrix.

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  3. Vedoo Riches
    Vedoo Riches says:

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  4. Linking
    Linking says:

    I have no problem with this tone but I don’t really get the purpose of this article.

    If the reader put themselves as attackers, they would feel no problem at all.

    If the reader put themselves as defenders, they would find offensive.

    Because the author is the writer. So he is not passive ( creating information). He is the attacker. Therefore, he’s certainly OK with what he wrote.

    But we are the reader. We are passive (we are getting information). We are the defenders. Therefore, we’re certainly not OK with what he wrote.

    If the author of this article read an article from another author with the same tone like this, he would find offensive too.

    “5 :: Because You Lack Curiosity”: don’t believe everything you read, every word you hear, included this article. “What if it’s all a lie”.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks for the feedback, but as the Author I have a slightly different perspective. I agree with your point, that the reader and author have different ways of looking at the article, (creating vs absorbing information) but I also have to disagree and say that I wrote it in this tone because this is specifically how I wanted the world to read it.

      I wanted the conflict. I wanted to the anger. I was inspired by a post written in a similar style. It is how I talk to myself and how I think the world would talk to us if we knew that the world was trying to kick our ass.

      I think many people are not challenging themselves because we have made it too easy to be comfortable. Comfortable is the norm and without a certain level of discomfort there can be no real change.

      The article was intended to make the reader uncomfortable in an attempt to provoke internally driven change. The only kind that can lead to real results.

      Thanks for you thoughts though.

    • Linking
      Linking says:

      I got your points. By the way, I have a question: What should we react when we just perceive new information which makes us feel uncomfortable? (for example this article)

      If we believe it immediately, it might cause negative results if that information does not fit our perspectives. Too open might lead to overloading information, misleading.

      If we don’t believe it immediately, we might lose the chance for self-improvement. Too conservative might lead to unable to develop.

      Making decisions is not so easy :D. Hope get your advice soon :D.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I think, as in many situations in life, it is up to us to take in the new information and compare it to our experiences (old information) and then see how that piece of the puzzle fits in with the other pieces we already have in place. I use the puzzle analogy because sometimes you might have another piece of information in the wrong place but that doesn’t mean that the piece doesn’t belong, it just means we might have to set it to the side until we understand how it fits into the bigger picture.

      Life is a funny puzzle like that. We find small pieces of information along the way and then spend the rest of our time figuring out how all the pieces fit together.

  5. Walt Wilson
    Walt Wilson says:

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  6. Sleepy Mee
    Sleepy Mee says:

    Your article is actually about me. I graduated 2013 and still don’t have a job. I stop looking for a job when I failed on my applications while my classmates and friends already got work. And now I know i put myself in a real difficult situation. I don’t possess the courage to wake and get back up on track.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Sounds like you have already given up. That is not the way to get anything done in life. You need to rethink how you look at the world if you plan on ever doing anything worthwhile in it. I understand doubt and not being sure of your abilities at an early age but you have a lot of life left to live. Welcome to the site by the way and thanks for registering as well. Maybe we will get your articles submission so we can review the full submission?

    • Sleepy Mee
      Sleepy Mee says:

      Well its been a year now and i still don’t know what to do for my life xD.. And about the article i don’t have one but I’m thinking about making it? :D

  7. Windows65
    Windows65 says:

    This article was a true eye opener on various aspects of life. I have always told myself not to hold myself back, and I haven’t, I have always shot for goals, but while doing that I was still missing the important details of success. My name is Benjamin and I am 16 years old, I am a computer programmer. I absolutely love to create and invent new things, I have had the craving of innovation in my heart since I can remember. As a kid I always wanted to build things that no one had built before and I had no idea how I could do such a thing. It was not until my Freshman year of high school I discovered a whole new level of possibilities I previously never knew exist. This ability to create was above my comprehension. I decided I was going to take my first step into this world of creativity and do what many could not do and eventually do what no man has done before. I had the right mind set at the time, I was not going to give up, I was going to learn a Programming language. The only problem is I started on a low level language that limited my full potential of creativity. It is a very good language but it not what I need. I still only know the lower level language and I have created amazing things with it, but because of your article, I am now dedicated to learn the programming language I will need for the rest of my life. I am going to build amazing things and nothing will stop me. I have failed many times but each time I go back to it I am better at it, I have been programming in a language I had previously given up on very well and this is my inspiration to keep going.

    I am going to continue to read this article when I am in need of motivation, many times society will throw me down to their level and I will give up for a while, sometimes I doubt my ability to learn something new but in reality it is ignorance which holds me back. This also applies to many other aspects of life, this applies to everyone, including You. It honestly feels good to wright this article and know I am going to succeed. My dream is to drive the world into a future that was previously thought to be impossible. I believe it is possible, and no I will not be able to do it myself, but I do think with the help of others that have the same motivation it can be done. The world can be changed by anyone for good and can be changed for the bad as well.

    Once again, I highly appreciate this article and the opportunity to open my eyes and look at what is going on in the world and how to counteract society and bring myself forth to challenges I have always been too scared to face. You are great. Thank you.

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  8. Beatrice Bersani
    Beatrice Bersani says:

    You should read this poem if you haven’t already: ‘be the best of who you are’. Not everybody wants to be the same and nor they are meant to. But thank you for the article. It is always good to push ourself forward.

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  9. sabom san
    sabom san says:

    Thank you for your powerful words. Don´t mind about the complaining and unfocused comments. Predictable, non surprising and – non relevant ;) Best regards, San

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  10. T.K. Baha
    T.K. Baha says:

    Or, I could just completely disregard what you say and go about my day. I won’t ever compromise. I’ll keep being mediocre, if it makes me happy.

    If fitting it makes me happy, I’ll do that too. If not, I won’t.

    Smart is not living. Experience is living. Smart is doing the correct thing WITH that experience. Everyone has their own way of doing things. The world is an imperfect place, so people will do imperfect things. There is no need to try, if others will do so. If others will do so, I will be happy in my mediocrity, while others will be happy in their excellence. I don’t care if you call me ignorant, stupid, or hardheaded. If someone is unhappy with mediocrity, they’ll change. But I’m happy as I am. We’re adapting creatures, so I’ll adapt to what makes me happy and satisfied.

    I read what I want to read. What I choose to read. Nobody else has a say in that matter. Weather or not what I read is important to others is up to everyone else. It’ll be important to me. And I care not for what others think is important.

    You also seem to think that everyone reading this is a mainstream 16 year old. I don’t play Candy Crush or Megalpopld[ffdwf. I don’t even own a phone. I don’t need one. Nor do I watch the news. It doesn’t concern me so much that I go out of my way to sit down and watch it. I have all the information that I need at my fingertips. Call me a sheep, it won’t matter. While you’re having to deal with the insecurities of being against the world, I’ll be snugly inside of it, happy as can be.

    I can handle the truth. I just don’t acknowledge it. There are differences. Say I have my head planted firmly up my ass, I’m still very happy in my mediocrity. You are the one trying to rile me up, and get me to get angry, passionate, to change and do something with my life and be positive. The only person here trying, is you. So why should I?

    I understand that you were talking to yourself. This was, more or less, my response to it to myself.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I don’t know where to start but hey, you are right. Too each their own. That is the beauty of America. Just don’t expect the people that do to pay for the people that don’t.

      I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. My intention with this article was to get people to think. To challenge themselves and to understand why they do the things they do.

      If you are happy then that gives you a leg up on most people.

      Thanks again for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  11. sam
    sam says:

    wow… author needs to get over themselves big time. if there’s one person i’d never take advice from it’s someone who sees themselves as more superior and insightful than I am, without knowing me at all. degrees won’t matter in carving a path to success at the end of the day, but your attitude will definitely be a part of it and put-down people just won’t win in the end, karmically or in the company of others. PS no one cares that you read books on string theory in your spare time, I would rather discuss the subject with friends of mine who have made Physics their life pursuit via a phD. have you ever considered that you, too, know nothing about most things?
    like many have said, yourself included, it’s what you do not what you say. be humble, for as your own article should remind you, “you’ll never become great” or whatever it was you were trying to say.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Bahaha. The irony of your comment is brutal. Telling me how much my article sucks, when the article first told you you suck.

      Guess it hit you pretty close to home, or you are the insecure one, because you had to come and defend yourself in the comments and then try to tear me down, when the actual purpose of the article was to build you up. Something you might have realized if you weren’t so busy being so much better than the guy who you claim is no good at all. Something that should not be hard to do.

      But that is not how it played out is it? Instead you had to say something. You had to get involved and tell me how wrong I was. No one would have been the wiser had you just clicked the back button and gone on with your life but you wanted to prove how wrong I was. You had to show me how much smarter than me you were and therefore make yourself feel better about the ass whooping my words gave you. Don’t worry, it happens a lot. You can see it in the comments here and all over the internet as this article has been read millions of times. All of those people must have been so stupid to read and share this article. We are all so stupid. Stupid. Stupid. No way there was a deeper message to be had. If only you could have gotten out of your own way and actually seen it.

      P.s. for the record, my attitude is exactly why people read this blog. Because they are tired of little wimps crying about people who are blunt or better than them. Because people like you are crying about being nice or because the world is full of little pansies running around worrying about how someone might get hurt so lets just all be nice to each other. Fuck that. The world is not nice. It is not easy. It is not intended to be equal, or nice, or friendly. It is just intended to be. Be what? That is for you to decide…. Be original. Be yourself. And for God’s sake, don’t be a pussy. That’s pretty much the solution to everything right there. Let the Nobel Prize committee know for me would you???

    • sam
      sam says:

      okay. enjoy the high and mighty road, since apparently readers are not allowed to have opinions in your world. i was just looking for a good way to waste time reading some Medium.com articles, but back to my day, no time for novel-length responses as you seem to have.

  12. mm1
    mm1 says:

    Yay, you’re the winner!

    PS – have you ever cared more about something than you care about yourself? I suspect not, hence the shouting.

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  13. Charlie
    Charlie says:

    well written.. on one hand, I can understand it is quite disruptive for some people. I think the author meant it to be irritating so that people can push themselves out of their comfort zone. Thus, I see a positive aspect. On the other hand, the author had demonstrated clustering people into “stereo-types” – I clearly disagree –>> For example, I play candy crush yet at the same time I read string theory and quantum mechanics. so let’s not stereotype people. perhaps there are many people who are outliers and do not necessarily fit into a stereotype.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You are pretty spot on. And I agree, it’s just hard to say all that and still present the while story so concisely. I know many brilliant people who like to play games on their phones.

      None of my statements were absolutes although many of them were interpreted as such.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Why does that matter? Are you the final judge on all that is great? You must be one bad ass to know everyone in this world who has done something great. Wonder what that feels like?

    • Iona-Kathryn Evans
      Iona-Kathryn Evans says:

      Nope! Precisely the reason I find it so bizarre that you write such a condescending article because at the end of the day no one has the right to judge and that includes YOU too.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You missed the entire point of the article. Read some of my relies to other comments as I don’t feel like getting into it again.

      You are reading it to literally and this is not an article that was meant to be read like that. It is a huge metaphore for the internal struggle to be great. It has nothing to do with me being better than anybody.

      Read it again and pretend you were sitting across from the baddest dude in the planet. What would he be saying to you? If you were sitting across from Steve jobs for instance.

      I wrote this as I imagined he would talk to me and how I talk to myself. It was a struggle between my inner sensibilities and desire to be excellent.

  14. ishan bhamri
    ishan bhamri says:

    I couldn’t have agreed more to each and every point of yours. I am going through the same things in life at the moment and the fact is I have a french final tomorrow morning(something I havent been able to pass in the past 5 years of my graduation), and yet I have no idea what i am going to write tomorrow. It is my last chance at redeeming a degree but somehow i do not regret taking it up or “wasting time” on getting to know the real world outside the wall that confine most people to think like the sheep. I do not regret taking spontaneous trips and ending up with 2 dollars in my pocket while i make my way back home. After all “all the good decisions lead you to the door but the bad one’s are the one’s that teach you how to unlock them”. Cheers mate.

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  15. Geo
    Geo says:

    Boy is that violent. And your tone is so smug.
    Please note that most people really don’t care about knowing something about everything, but everything about something and that doesn’t make them losers. It’s the difference between specialists and multipotentialites, and there’s nothing wrong with either.

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  16. Mahad
    Mahad says:

    I read this article, and immediately shared it with 5 close friends that i know. We think the same, we five can relate to this. And by the way, i am a nice guy, trust me and i love helping me.Then, i noticed there were few comments below, i could not believe the article made some people react so negatively, i don’t know why,but i did not find you coming across as someone who is “arrogant” or someone who seems to have narcissistic personality. disorder as some one mentioned below, its nothing to do with feeling superior or inferior.. i was so into the writing, focused on the writing style, it was real, true, original, and trust me i usually don’t comment on articles, but this one was unique. I mean, i am beginning to not give a shit, to say it as it is, and to give that straight talk, real talk, from the heart. You only live once man, so the hell should you care. I thank you for saying it as it is, for coming out in the street and exposing yourself – the real you. Yeah man, i think i will be here a long, you will find me around, keep bringing that original stuff man. Yeah, i am talking you man, the real you. Cheers. Mahad

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Haha. Thanks for the love. Believe it or not we are the majority. This thing has gone viral all around the world and that didn’t happen because the majority of the people didnt like it. It happened because it was exactly what you said it was.

      Fresh, different, harsh and true. But also entertaining. The people who don’t get it will never get it but you should definitely stick around. I’m just getting started and this is going to be a fun ride.

  17. Robert Brown
    Robert Brown says:

    I would respond to your article but as you’re “learning how to edit video, build websites and design mobile apps,” I am raising my children teaching them things that I have learned throughout my life and passing on my memory and genes for generations to come. While you were “studying life; because instead of learning about the world in a classroom I went out and learned it by living” I was learning things that have been passed down by the greatest minds who ever lived and surrounding myself with the top brilliance of the day. Some of these minds put a man on the moon, can accelerate particles close to the speed of light and wrote the string theory and quantum mechanics books you are reading but are failing to understand. I have spent too much of my precious time responding to this article because I live my life and do not waste time comparing it to others for the sake of belittling them.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I would respond to your comment… but wait, I already am. That was weird. For a moment I almost thought the words I was typing were about to make sense.

      Let me get this straight, you wanted to tell me about how awesome your life was while telling me how shitty mine really is? That’s weird, its almost as if I had just read an article like that somewhere.

      Thanks for playing.

  18. jcatanza
    jcatanza says:

    Bullshit.

    Because this article is braggadocio and self-promotion masquerading as “life advice”.

    It’s intended to intimidate people and make them feel inferior by comparison.

    Because making cocktail party conversation about string theory and quantum mechanics is not a substitute for holding a science degree.

    Because comparing oneself to Steve Jobs does not elevate one to Steve Jobs’ level.

    Because writing apps, editing video and building websites may be admirable, but is not superior to knitting, gardening, exercising, or volunteering for charity, or the thousands of other ways people challenge themselves.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Your arrogance blinds you and yet you call my message self-promotional and braggadocio. It was intended to get people to think for themselves and ask themselves some tough questions but you obviously have it all figured out.

      So I just wonder why the fuck you felt you needed to share your thoughts?

      Why would you read something, think it sucked and then take the time to comment? Maybe the article hit too close to home and you couldn’t stand the way it made you feel so you had to flex your intellect and try to tear me down.

      You miss the point of the entire article. Read some of my comments below because I am tired of dealing with ignorant people who just don’t get it.

  19. Aramchek
    Aramchek says:

    LOL at everyone who took this faaar too seriously (especially the Ayn Rand fan, but then he’s probably got bigger problems), instead of applying a little critical thinking. I found this kinda validating, and think the author is an asshole; who i’d definitely love to grab a drink with sometime :p

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  20. Junaid Ahmed
    Junaid Ahmed says:

    This is probably the most powerful article I’ve ever read/listened to. It was like an episode from game of thrones. I love the enthusiasm and the call to opening your mind. And I love the offensive language because without shaking someone off of their feet you will not get their attention. You sir inspire me!

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  21. Ramona
    Ramona says:

    Mr. Tirado,

    Thank you very much for writing this, it is always refreshing to see someone has a struggling mind like many people, except that you care to expose your dialogue. Some of us have internal fights too, some of us even are rude to ourselves like I’ve seen a lot of people interpret your monologue but like you said, one has to expose and be open with things as they are just to be truthful, no matter a lot of people doesn’t like it.

    I want to thank you as well to care enough to answer to every comment. I don’t think you’re rude, quite the opposite. I may not agree with some things you’ve written but I do see you answering everybody and this speaks of the follow up responsibility you have with your own words. I may have seen your article a little late but I look forward to keep reading you.

    Sincerely,

    Ramona

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Ramona, thanks for the kind words and understanding where I am coming from with these words.

      If you can understand the struggle inside my head, then you can see how writing becomes my therapy.

      People who don’t get it are too busy being mad at themselves to appreciate the beauty of their own lives. Let alone the beauty of the expression of another’s life.

      I answer because I care. As often as I can I respond to everyone because at the end of the day I am just as broken as anyone and I’m just trying to start a few conversations about things no one wants to talk about.

      Thanks again for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  22. Nick
    Nick says:

    The only one of these that may apply would be number 3 as I sometimes overestimate my capabilities. However, with enough persistence I expect my business to become successful. Preferably sooner than later.

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  23. Josef Fortez
    Josef Fortez says:

    Mmmm, nothing like an article based on the degradion of an imaginary, perfectly flawed reader and the huge, towering monstrous sea of arrogance that washes away any legitimate advice that might have been present. The overtones of a conspiracy theorist at heart are also quite exquisite. “Copy-cat members of the state-controlled media?” Really? Everyone’s not out to get you and the government doesn’t run everything. That’s why we have corporations….

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You sir are obviously right. Everyone walk away now… nothing to see here…. This guy Josef figured me out.

      Guess I’ll go do something else now.

      Get a clue. You completely missed the point of the article. You let your arrogance convince you that this article was about me or you. It smacked you around so much in your head that you couldn’t help but feel offended so you had to comment on it and act smart, but really what you did was expose to all of us how stupid you truly are.

      Everyone who thinks this article is about them is a complete fool. To those who think it is about me… You are also a complete fool. It is about life, and the individual willingness to participate or jut sit back and watch. It is pretty much that simple.

      At the core, these are just words. A collection of thoughts from my head, strung together in a purposeful way, in an attempt to make them into an interesting story. Random thoughts, floating in my head, assembled in a way to get people to think and react. Intended on driving thoughts into the deepest parts of your brain and letting them writhe around inside you. Designed to make you question yourself and the world around you.

      And guess what???? It fucking worked. Like it or hate it the shit worked. Millions of people let this thing crawl into their head and take residence. You are really no different than any of them. Well… maybe a little different.

      You see, where most people understood what this was, you decided it was something else. Instead of letting the words inspire you and push you to question your surroundings, you decided you knew me. You decided that these words were autobiographical and that I was intent on destroying my reader. You decided that it was an expose on my awesomeness as a human and the trouncing of the lesser beings around me. You decided to be shallow and wrong.

      If these are the lenses through which you look at the rest of the world it is not hard to see why we are in deep shit as a nation.

      P.s. the media is worthless but thanks for trying to defend them. Not saying there aren’t pockets of truth out there but for the most part, mass media is a joke. And obviously corporations are to blame. Just like government. No way either of those are just large aggregations of people making decisions right? #YourLogicIsFlawed

  24. brian
    brian says:

    This article just completely went over so many heads. After reading through the comments it seems that maybe 1 out of 10 people understood where it was supposed to take them. I saw one guy claim that since there was 1 typo the whole article was irrelevant. Other people tried to assess this as a foundation for being financially successful. Others just saw it as complete arrogance and narcissism. It’s like these people were already coming up with ways to shoot it down halfway through. One thing is for sure, number 7 seems to be a major recurring issue with the majority of these comments. At Least the ones I read.

    Anyway, this has really put a lot of things into perspective for me. Major overhauls don’t happen overnight, and I’m not expecting to wake up tomorrow and have everything in it’s right place. It will never be that way, but that’s okay because that means the drive and will and curiosity never has to end. I just wish I could say something more than ‘thanks’.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Lots of people didn’t get it but this article has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and has had millions of views in the last few months which makes me think that most people did get it.

      The ones who took it personally or got offended are often the ones standing in their own way. Unable to see that an article like this is intended to empower, not restrict the reader.

      Thanks for getting it.

  25. brian
    brian says:

    This post hit me really hard. It hit me like a ton of bricks, because it called out everything about me. This could have had my name on the top of it. After reading it, I’m not feeling necessarily positive and okay. I feel like I got called out. I feel uncomfortable with myself. But I think this is the point. I really needed this. Thank you man.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      It still hits me like a ton of bricks too and I wrote it. Have no fear, it’s never about relishing on what you have not done, it’s about being honest with yourself and realizing it’s never too late to do something new.

      Thanks for being honest and for sharing your thoughts.

  26. CK
    CK says:

    This article is inspiring. I would compare it with the movie “Fight Club” as it is about the mess around most people’s head. Lots of thoughts, little action, more stress for things we didn’t start.

    I would like to hear your opinion about over-thinking and less feeling.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I am a big proponent of people going out and just doing things.

      I had no idea how to build a website when I started Raymmar.com and look at it now.

      I had no idea what I was doing when I got in front of the camera for the first time but I wanted to learn so I started playing around and my second video has more than 300k views and I have the beginnings of a great YouTube channel.

      Same with the podcasts we just launched. Who knows where those end up.

      The world is out there and I think people should do a better job of just going out there and grabbing it.

  27. Yazminh AB
    Yazminh AB says:

    I find it funny that people are focusing on and getting riled up over the tone of this article. It is clearly meant to make you think. I didn’t absorb anything that didn’t apply to me; the rest, eh, it’s your way of saying what you want to say. Most of the article, I didn’t really interpret as arrogant except for the few the explicit “i pone you” statements, haha!

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I can actually see why people might think what they do, but those people suck.

      They are too shallow to look past their own selfishness in the rush of trying to tell me how selfish I have been.

      The truth is that I have actually exposed them for what they are and they had to defend themselves. Publicly at that. They read the article, let it crawl into their head and it pushed them to respond, interact or otherwise get involved.

      It’s quite an interesting result if you think of this article in the context of this website being a huge social experiment.

      #HaveISaidTooMuch

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  28. thorvax88
    thorvax88 says:

    If you aren’t shaking the boat every once in awhile you aren’t living to your full potential. just imagine if the post was written in the cliche “7 things to improve in your life” style, it would just be white noise in all of the other thousands of other articles that try and tell us how to live our lives. Yet this one sticks out as the one which can grab my attention, slap me in the face, and tell me i am wrong but ultimately leave me with a smile on my face and an odd sense of motivation This was very effective and i think that because he made it personal with calling the reader out and placing himself in the know-it-all writer position he agitated some of us, and might i add quite cunningly. His goal as a writer of something as powerful as this is to get the audience to read and then execute the things that he has challenged us to do. He decided to do this by getting all of us agitated and offended, to get us to say “Well who is he to tell me what i am or am not!” and then go and prove him wrong. his goal was not to get everybody to happily agree that we arent living to our full potential it was to get people so pissed off and mad that we would start to live up to it.

    Granted, this is only the way that i interpreted it, and as a high school senior, with my whole life ahead of me, i am going to refer to this post throughout my life as motivation to change the world. This was a very inspiring post and I am going to share this as much and as often as I can.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You are wise beyond your years Daniel son! Most people can’t get out of their own way to understand the message behind this article and here you come out of left field and make it so apparently simple for them.

      Trust me, half of them still won’t get it. Thanks for understanding and for sharing your thoughts. Much love!

  29. Pete Sapper
    Pete Sapper says:

    The people who took this article personally honestly need to take an good look at themselves and what it is in them that finds a public address so goddamn personal.

    It might just be because you know he’s spot on when it comes to people with your loser mentality.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Yeah, I always wonder how people let an article get under their skin so much. If it’s not your cup of tea, just move on. No need to huff and puff about it.

      I think you are probably right though, people hate being called out and an article like this might have hit closer to home than they want to admit.

  30. Guest
    Guest says:

    The people who took this article personally honestly need to take an honest look at themselves and what it is in them that finds a public address so goddamn personal.

    It might just be because you know he’s spot on when it comes to you.

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  31. choups1225
    choups1225 says:

    First reaction: ” Who the fuck is he? ” like most of the responders… But how can you simply leave a message without digging deeper… And what is most astonishing is even when the blogger himself explains the content of his writing threw diverse response to other people…. Most of you probably didn’t read them at all by the way you wrote back…. so offended and denouncing the man for writing is inner battle against himself… And even more disgusting from most reply is you probably have the same kind of inner battle with yourself and can’t accept that someone puts it right in your face, disturbing your own fuckin’ ego!! You know, just a little research could had change your perspective on the man… You know what i did? Goggle, Raymmar Tirado, search! You see, It doesn’t mean I know him that much… BUT… by reading or watching some of his videos and reading some of his response to all of you, I came to the conclusion that ; Hey, this guy’s trying to shake things up a little. Try to understand before you speak or write something…. Lack of curiosity and your head way up your ass.

    Pardon me if I made some mistake in my writing.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks so much for getting it. I really appreciate you taking the time to understand where I was coming from and why I take the tone that I do. Your support is much appreciated.

      Thanks for taking the time and sharing your thoughts.

  32. Yin Thao Ha
    Yin Thao Ha says:

    Thanks Raymar. I think you’re absolutely right! These people who chose to embrace the mundane are the ones toiling the soil to serve our food, they’re the people who clean our streets, the people who do our laundry, they’re the ones using their brawn to construct our buildings, they’re the people who taught you how to read, the people who entertain you, they’re the people consuming your products, the people stuck in shifts to assist the sick or serve mad customers… These people got nothing better to do, so they just end up doing what the rest of the people do, learning what other people learn, and following what they are told, or maybe they just go on with what they’re doing because the circumstances are not in their favor! They’re the ordinary people that serves as backdrop to make amazing people look even better! The mundane exists to highlight the extraordinary!

    Of course, I’m being sarcastic. It’s such a pity that you look at us in this light. Like the things we do never makes an impact.

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  33. neo
    neo says:

    I really liked this. I’ve tried to talk to millennials in forums before and all I get is negative defeatist attitude. This is the good swift kick in the butt they need. Chuckle. The world isn’t going to give it to you. Yes you generally do have to put out some kind of effort.

    I can agree with a lot of what is being said, but of course there is never just one way to do something. Life has definitely taught me that. Successful people come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Just look at Duck Dynasty if you doubt this.

    Sometimes finding the simplest or elegant way is the best way. In today’s heavily connected world effort may not be the overriding factor. It may just be insight and only insight into something everyone else has missed…and of course a copy of Steve Blank’s The Startup Owner’s Manual: The Step-By-Step Guide for Building a Great Company. which totally eliminates the need for a business plan. The wall that stops every good idea from happening.

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  34. Chris Seehafer
    Chris Seehafer says:

    Pushing through failure is how I live, I am not afraid to take those risk. You’re all living in shadow, programmed lives. When I’m down I’m coming alive.

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  35. Galen Surlak-Ramsey
    Galen Surlak-Ramsey says:

    After reading both this article and your comments clarifying that this is supposed to be a back-and-forth dialog inside your own mind, I do have some remarks.

    First and foremost, I do agree with some of your thoughts in that the vast majority of people fail to succeed at their dreams because they don’t fail enough, or care too much about vanity, or never leave the crowd, or that they don’t read, or that they lack curiosity, etc. These are basic points that nearly every success story will repeat in one form or another. If you’re not willing to put in 10,000 hours of solid, constant work, you’ll never compete as a world-class anything.

    That being said, I believe you are vastly confusing a famous life and an amazing life. The brutal truth of it is, virtually no one will be famous. Even those who find a world-fame in their life time (and what a small slice of the pie it is), they will be barely a footnote 20 years later in some obscure text. After a century or two, they too are forgotten like the rest of us. A thousand years, even slimmer odds to be known (1 in billions and billions at best). Eventually, no matter how famed you may have been, your life too will disappear and join the ranks of countless others forgotten.

    Amazing, however, does not need world-recognition. And while I realize that what constitutes an “amazing life” is very subjective, I’ll share what I find to be far more amazing than someone who reads books on string theory, who can argue both sides of theology, philosophy, ethics, or economics while sitting comfortably in his or her ivory tower. No matter how many debates you win, diplomas you have (or think you are on par with), or truths you shatter, none—in my mind—will ever compare to what’s below.

    I’m amazed at the corpsman that rushes through withering fire to save the life of a fallen enemy soldier, not because he’s looking to capture the man who was trying to kill his friends, but because he realizes the man bleeding to death is a human too and no longer a threat.

    I’m amazed at the single parent who not only raises a child to resist social pressures in all forms, but instills core values that teach that child that a person’s worth is not defined by his or her socioeconomic status, history, intelligence, job, or physical appearance, but rather all people have an intrinsic value that, pardon the religious allusion, make them nothing short but holy.

    I’m amazed by the same child that beats all the odds that are stacked against him or her, and grows into a productive, happy, well-adjusted member of society.

    I’m amazed at the countless service personnel who work for fire departments, hospitals, are EMTs, etc. that work long hours for little pay, that constantly go to a job that demands so much of their soul with so little in return, and are at extreme risks for burnout, PTSD, alcoholism, etc. because even the strongest people eventually break to pressure if they aren’t careful. The amount of lives they have saved and helped to rebuild far outweigh any theorizing you might do with Brian Greene or Stephen Hawking (and I greatly respect them both).

    I’m amazed by people who look to build others up in a world that constantly looks to tear others down.

    I’m amazed by people who give all that they have to help others without an ounce of desire for recognition or reward.

    I’m amazed by people who talk soft and never give into temptation to use a big stick.

    I’m amazed by the selfless when its so easy to rationalize being selfish.

    I’m amazed by people who can suffer the most horrific tragedies at the hands of others, and not only still find peace and beauty in the world, but can somehow forgive those who injured them and move on with their lives.

    Regards.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I agree with you that all those things are amazing. I never mentioned what amazing was, just encouraged people to go be amazing at something… Anything.

      I was hoping to push people and inspire them to go out and chase something bigger than themselves, whatever that may be.

      I never claimed to be anything other than me. If you read any of my other stuff you would see that this is just a journey for me. This is one big social experiment and I have no idea where it leads or what comes of it.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts and taking the time to write such a detailed reply.

  36. Dario
    Dario says:

    shortly said, I would like to know how many times you have done (or tried) something extraordinary?
    Also, my opinion about this article is – you’re not extraordinary, just because of your provocative approach of your article and a voice.

    you see, there are 2 basics emotions – love and fear. If this article would come from love, it would be more supportive, than provocative. Also, your article & text reveals your inner feeling of seeing yourself (or trying to be) better than others. People that are subconsciously sure about themselves don’t need to push others down in any way. Your approach is not supportive, which means, you’re just polishing your own picture in a mirror..

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  37. Alex MadHatter
    Alex MadHatter says:

    YOU’RE ALL A BUNCH OF IDIOTS! ahem, now that I’ve got your attention… I have read the article in Serbian language first, and although a lot was lost in translation and it strikes you as even more “offensive” in my language, I fully agree with the aggressive approach used here. If it was said “7 ways to try and make you think”, “this was an argument between the voices in my head, therefore, not meant to offend you” or “some people only read what they’re told, but not you, I’m sure you’re smart and well-read, random person who reads this.” it wouldn’t really have had the same impact on you, would it? This way, it definitely got to you, whether it made you get into some introspection or do exactly what he mentioned: “You think that because you judge others, this means that those people must, in-turn, be judging you”. You judged, (‘He thinks he’s better than the rest of us’, ‘He’s narcissistic, has a diagnose etc.’) and you felt like you were being judged by him (‘Who is he to tell me how to live my life’, ‘What do you mean I haven’t failed enough’, ‘You don’t know anything about me) thus feeling the need to defend yourself (referring to all the ‘life stories’ typed out in the comments). “7 Because you can’t handle the truth” “Because you don’t question yourself.” You were so quick to disregard the article, call it a ‘load of crap’ etc., you never questioned your opinion on it, which (I assume) you formed seconds after (or while) you read it, without stopping to think. “Because you call me a know-it-all but refuse to call yourself a know-nothing-at-all.” Now, I purposely tried to quote the article and the comments as much as my patience would allow me, simply to point out how, exactly by denying his logic and way of thinking you actually proved his point. Does that piss you off even more? I hope so. As I’ve heard, denial is the first, and anger the second stage on the road to change, so you might be headed in a good direction. I’m quite aware of the fact that most people won’t stop to read this, but if you did, I’d say you’re curious, a tad bit interested in change and apparently, different opinions and points of view. You’re perfectly capable of questioning, see, you’ve got it in you, cheers to you!

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Ahhhhhhh!

      Like light coming through the clouds.

      What a brilliant, examination of the entire premise of the article and responses!

      You are officially hired as my official comment ass kicker!

      Thanks for getting it and also understanding the process behind my writing it.

      Thanks for understanding the hypocrisy of the ignorant who claim to hate this message without exploring why it made them feel that way.

      Most of all, thanks for reading and taking the time to break down your thoughts.

    • Jess, MSW
      Jess, MSW says:

      It is not that hard to see what you were trying to do through provocation. Provocation can be useful. However, if so many “ignorant hypocrites” missed the point, can we really call this article successful?

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Yes. I think most people get the meaning and understand the premise. That is why it is being shared around the globe hundreds of thousands of times. I am pretty sure that is a decent indicator of the success of the article.

      Getting a few thousand views to a blog article is hard enough, let alone getting millions, having it picked up by the Huffington Post and having people from all over the world reach out to let me know the impact it had on their mindset about life.

    • Jess, MSW
      Jess, MSW says:

      I applaud you for the widespread views of your article. My question/reflection is how impactful will your message be if so many readers take offense or feel provoked in the wrong way? Are we measuring impact by the number of shares or the actual positive effect on a reader? And how can we really know that effect?

      In the spirit of giving honest feedback, I’ll let you know my impression of the article. When I first started reading it, I felt refreshed at how you took on this difficult topic. But as I kept reading, I could not get passed the negativity. I felt put down rather than pushed forward. I also felt from you a sense of arrogance, not pride in your accomplishments. I don’t think you meant to do that, but it turned me off and turned me away from the more important message on self-reliance.

      I normally don’t respond this in-depth in comments. Actually, I rarely comment in these forums. I do want to point out that there are a lot of people who want honest, objective answers for how to approach their lives. I hope you continue to pursue that work.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I would say that if your opinion of the article was actually what was happening it would not be shared as often as it is so that is actually a pretty strong indicator of how most people are receiving it.

      I can know the effect it is having because of the feedback and number I messages I am getting telling me what an impact the article had on the readers life. That’s quantifiable data.

      As for the arrogant approach, I think you miss the point of my tone entirely. I am yelling at myself as much as the reader and

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I’m pretty sure that is the only way to judge whether or not it is having a positive impact. Let me ask you this, did you share it? Probably not since you did not like the tone of the article. However, hundreds of thousands of people have shared it which means that they did, or that it hit home in some context.

      I think you miss the point of the tone. It was supposed to get under your skin. It was supposed to make you think. It was purposefully designed to make the reader uncomfortable. Not because I think I am better than anyone, smarter or have even accomplished more but because I look at the world different than most.

      I look at the world as a place where anything is possible and if I work hard enough I can make anything a reality. That is the context of the voice. I was yelling to inspire myself as much as the reader.

      I would be interested in understanding why you decided to pick this one as the conversation to get involved in if this is not something you normally do? Why did you keep reading and then decide to share your thoughts.

      I really do genuinely want to know. Most of what i do is about stirring the pot and starting conversations so I would just be interested to know what made this different than the other times where you decided to share your opinion on the article.

  38. Vivian Chern Shnaidman
    Vivian Chern Shnaidman says:

    Raymmar, I too find this article offensive. Yes, you have the time to write a blog. Good on you. How many children do you have? How many years of higher education and training did you have to accomplish? How many years have you been married? How many languages do you speak? How many instruments do you play? You write as if you are the only person in the world who actually worked hard in college. As if only writing code is an acceptable “amazing” thing to do. Ironically, you yourself say that the only people who do what they are supposed to do in life are the ones reading the article. So why write it? Why be obnoxious and narcissistic and condescending? I’ve done a thing or two in my life, and I am not ashamed that I have not yet done anything “amazing.” By my standards, neither have you.

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    • Dario
      Dario says:

      I’ll reply, as the same question came into my mind (and he didn’t answer it). You can find his profile on Linkedin and Facebook, and find that probably he hasn’t done much in his life, maybe rarely he jumped out of his comfort zone.Also, yes, he’s not married (according to Facebook), so he’s yet not in a real-life situation in which he might choose between feeding a family with a kids and having his ‘pride’ and attitude.
      Said enough ;)

    • Vivian Chern Shnaidman
      Vivian Chern Shnaidman says:

      I also find it mind-boggling that he presents us with Steve Jobs’s photo and quotation as if it came from him. And yes, he has not answered, although he is quick to answer and insult other commentators.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I try to keep up with the comments as best I can but it gets hard at times. Sorry for missing your last comment.

      The opinion that I was “obnoxious and narcissistic and condescending” in this article is a personal one. A viewpoint which you are entitled to since this is art and interpretation is subjective. However, those were not and are not my intentions.

      Define amazing? Do you know my story? Sure you looked at my FB and LI profiles but what did that tell you? Those are my tools for sharing messages to the world. I am actually divorced and have had to make many “real-life situations” where I have had to make tough choices.

      Who’s defining my success? You? Money? Society? You obviously missed the point of the entire article and well… for that I have no answer. I will continue on my path and maybe one day you will look back and get to say you trolled my comments one time and told me I was a nobody.

      Who knows, maybe I will always be a nobody, but that has nothing to do with it. I am happy. I am living my dreams and I am playing this game called life by my rules only.

      That’s pretty fucking amazing if you ask me.

  39. richscholar
    richscholar says:

    Raymmar- I thoroughly enjoyed the purpose of this article and think that every university student should read it.You were not disregarding a college degree (as some have stated in the comments), but rather that if someone feels a degree is all that is needed in life, he or she will never succeed.

    I am a teacher at a conservative university and would really like to share this with my classes. However, the profanities make it impossible. Are you up for the challenge in making this G rated (language wise) so that I can really proselyte your message? I am not wanting you to water down your article, but more to make it appropriate for all ages. Let me know, and again thank you for stating something this is not said (or thought) enough. ~Paul

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks for seeing the bigger message. I appreciate you inderstanding and taking the time to reach out and share your thoughts.

      That being said, the language was just me representing my true inner voice and inserting my colorful personality through the words.

      You can feel free to censor the few obscenities but I’m not changing it on any of my channels.

      I appreciate you sharing the message but it has been seen by millions and somehow they were all able to look past a few curse words. Feel free to edit them out but please be sure to leave the context in tact and share the source.

      They should know that conservatism doesn’t mean stale and that’s the entire premise of what I do.

    • richscholar
      richscholar says:

      Raymmar- I have no problems removing the 3 obscenities, but I just didn’t want you to think I was censoring your thoughts. I know many people were able to look past these expletives (if they even had an issue with them, which is a topic for another time) being that your message rang dead true and needed saying.

      I have a good friend who has millions of followers on YouTube and he has been told on several occasions that large organizations and brands have been able to use his footage for commercials and other things because his videos were family friendly (which meant significant income for him). I only bring this up because you were able to reach a large audience with this article, and I know you could reach an even larger audience if the content stayed true to the meaning without using profanity.

      However, I hope you don’t take this as your mother scolding you. Your content is amazing and it is your choice in how you present it. Furthermore, I know I represent a dwindling demographic in today’s world.

      Anyway, again thank you for your strong words of wisdom. I sincerely wish you the best on your path of self-actualization. ~Paul

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I understand your concerns. I try to keep my profanities to a minimum, especially with this type of content but sometimes, I just have to drop an F-bomb to make the point.

      There are people with millions of followers on YouTube who stay true to themselves and their voices as well.I guess there are people from all schools of thought on this topic. To each their own I guess.

      I didn’t take it as a scolding. I have pretty tough skin and of all the critiques I have received so far, yours was pretty mild.

      Thanks again for the encouragement and I promise to not use profanity in all my work. Just once in a while when I feel it fits the message and helps people understand my tone, emotion and passion!

    • richscholar
      richscholar says:

      I appreciate understanding my side, and I am glad you took it the way I intended it. Concerning my YouTube comment, my purpose wasn’t to say that he had millions of followers because he was family friendly, just that he had more opportunities to monetize than those individuals who, though having great content, decided to color their content differently Ü.

  40. Ben B
    Ben B says:

    I have some issues with this article. The whole point of the article is essentially “You’ll never succeed because you suck at life. Stop sucking at life.” Apparently some people find verbal abuse motivating, but it has always had the opposite effect on me.

    When I read articles like this, it triggers memories of me being suicidal and telling myself that I’m a burden on my friends and family, that I’ll never be happy because I’m a worthless loser, and since I’ll never do anything of value, I might as well just remove myself from the human population. When I read something like “… [Y]ou should be very worried. You should drop everything and immediately question your existence on earth” it’s hard for me not to flash back to the things I told myself when I just wanted to get into a warm tub and slit my wrists.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Ben,

      As someone who has struggled with suicidal thoughts for a long time I understand where you are coming from.

      However, you miss the point if the article. If the time is not for you then don’t read it. If someone says something you don’t like, then don’t listen. That’s what I’m saying here.

      That’s the irony behind all of the negative comments. This article is about falling in love with yourself. About embracing yourself and pushing yourself to be better.

      It’s intended to pull you back from the cliff, not push you over it. Don’t ever give up. That in itself is amazing!

  41. Marshall
    Marshall says:

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    outl0strokewidth0 strokec2 Reading this, I feel like I could have written it, but don’t think I would. It is very in your face, almost down your throat, or through you chest even, which I appreciate – I trained and managed dozens of sales professionals who made hundreds of thousands of dollars/year for themselves this same way – I would challenge who they think they are and make them prove something each day. I never went to college, I barely graduated HS, but was then awarded an academic letter by accident (?). I jumped from job to job right after HS and partied like an Olympian. I started my own advertising company at 19 and sold it by 22. By the time my friends finished college, I had enough in the bank to pay off most of their loans, oh, and a few years of real world business management and development experience. I was addicted to sales training and self help seminars for a year or two. I learned the stock market, options trading and offshore banking all on my own. I retired for a couple of years and traveled the world, then went back to work for the company I had previously sold, while getting my series 7 and learning trades at a major firm. I did under the table back alley white collar business deals too, whatever it was, I could figure out the angle which would optimize the position of one side. I worked with commercial real estate, became licensed and developed training programs which made people shit tons of money and saved our clients msgnitudes more (100s of millions annually). I was the best, people loved me, my team respected me, everyone was having fun, I had a huge dick and everyone knew it. But then things started to change for me. I was living in Europe running an operation which serviced 13 countries and I was pissed off at my bosses over lack of opportunity. I began judging who they were and what their motivations were and began to see them as inferior members of society. They wanted me and it was pathetic, but they didn’t see me as a peer which really hurt me. The worst part was, is that at that time, there was nothing more I wanted than to be one of them. I became disgusted with myself. I negotiated a new contract with them where I would work 10 days per month at my discretion and I just traveled. The time spent in the office was on planning trips. Everyone present respected me as I was the head honcho who cared about them individually, but as for the execs I paid no regard. I continued to see the world and developed my own idea of what is important in this life, I now believe that the answer is very simple – t’s you, it’s me, it’s us. Taking care of humanity is really all I have to do, today or anyday. Giving a crap about people has become important to me and now I run around the world trying to see whats really going on and lend a hand when I can. I intermix with those most unlike me and seek understanding, and when doing this, the only objective is to truly just have a good time with them. I stopped watching the news about 8 years ago, I read books from both perspectives, I learn languages to be able to communicate more deeply and I enjoy preparing and eating meals with people. I work here and there and get paid sometimes for it. I feel good about myself and I still have a big dick, nowadays I just don’t feel the need to show it to everyone. Peace and love.}

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  42. Alyssa Cantrell
    Alyssa Cantrell says:

    “…diving head first, into the brain of another man in an attempt to better understand the world around you.”
    I love this line. I never really thought about reading like that; it makes it sound so much more exciting and open-minded. So thank you for the different perspective. :)

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    • Lisa Day
      Lisa Day says:

      I can see why you love that line it is flipping spot on!
      “…diving head first, into the brain of another man in an attempt to better understand the world around you.”

  43. Caroline Sada
    Caroline Sada says:

    Amazing post – though the “because of..” tended to make me forget what the first-first sentence was. Nevertheless, it touched me. I love when people actually write down things the way I actually think about them. Amazing. And I think I spent about 15 minutes reading these comments here. That is also one thorough conversation going on here and some people do actually have good points as others well.. you know. In conclusion I think that if there weren’t these arguments stated here with other people, the post maybe would miss a thing or two – one gets more deeper understanding of the whole meaning of this post when reading your arguments with other people. Greetings from Estonia and best wishes to you (:

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks for your thoughts. I wondered if I used because too much but if you hear it in my tone, as the emotion rolls off my tongue you understand ye passion with which I wrote this piece.

      Some people get it, some people don’t. I wanted to start a conversation and I did. All over the world about becoming something better.

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  44. Mikey Steins
    Mikey Steins says:

    Thank you for this inspiring and awakening post. I am at a standoff where my career and the pursuit of my passions are colliding and it’s words like these that I draw solace and clarity from.

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  45. Mikey Steins
    Mikey Steins says:

    Thank you for this inspiring and awakening post. I am at a standoff where my career and the pursuit of my passions are colliding and it’s words like these that I draw solace and clarity from.

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  46. Sasha Roxanne Atlas
    Sasha Roxanne Atlas says:

    “I am both of those things but they do not define me. Who are you to tell me what I am or am not? What have you done? How have you exposed yourself to the world? Where is your article on Huffington Post? Viral Blog or cohesive thought put out to the world in an attempt to help form its direction? What are you doing that makes you the authority on anything other than being a dick?”

    It seems that you are doing all of these things.

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  47. Joyce Wong
    Joyce Wong says:

    Hello Mr Tirado,
    I read your article and found it similar to Sartre’s existentialism where he mentions the fear of the unknown (like you slightly mentioned in #2 and #7). You also mentioned about not questioning authority, which I think is similar to postmodernism! I learned these a while ago, and have been having these same arguments in my head and have never came to a conclusion because I don’t think there is one. Your article title mentions why one will never achieve anything amazing in his/her own life, but I think the word “amazing” is simply a fabricated word just like “perfection”. We cannot expand beyond this so-called amazement or perfection because our knowledge no matter how much we learn will always be in a box and if you want to go beyond this box, well you can’t because you don’t know what you don’t know. All I have concluded from existentialism, postmodernism, as well as your article is to live life how ever you please, and accept your own faults because they are your own choices! Sorry if I branched out or don’t even make sense, but it was nice coming across your article and reading about it! Thanks for writing!

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You said a lot if things there but pretty much nailed it at the end. Be yourself, live life and push yourself to be better.

      I don’t really want to get into a philosophical debate about the meaning of amazing but I think we can agree that if everyone tried to be the best version of themselves as possible and we all just mind our business as opposed to our neighbors business the world might just have a chance at being a better place to live in.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  48. Paul D
    Paul D says:

    Wow, this article is an eye opener for me! Although this article is painful to read, alot of it clears up some of the confusion of why I am not as far in life as I could be.

    It also enlightened me to the reasons behind my successes, the few that I have.

    Anyways, thanks to the author for the article, and I think now I am going to go analyze what I am uncomfortable with, work against that discomfort, and feel some pain.

    Sayonara.

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  49. vadakkus
    vadakkus says:

    Whoa! People getting pissed off the author for writing something HE wanted to on HIS own blog! What oh what could be the reason? That he showed them that their little lives sucked? Like the shock and rejection Neo faced when he was pulled from the Matrix? If you don’t like what you are reading, close that tab and go read some newspaper or watch a TV show or some programmed news channel or listen to some synth-pop like everyone does, reassuring yourselves on how awesome your pathetic lives are. The less there are people trying to do something, the more chances of success for those who are actually trying to do something.

    Keep up the anger Raymmar! It is therapeutic. Gets me through life.

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  50. Cliff Alexander
    Cliff Alexander says:

    Oh my God. I don’t even know what to say right now. This is
    one of the most amazing things I have ever read and I think something is
    different somewhere because of it. Do you know I have sat here and read this
    article three straight times and I’m still so blown away. I’m everywhere on
    this page, I would swear you wrote this for me. On one hand, I feel insulted
    and violated that someone should make such blatant assumptions about the me,
    someone you have never met…but on the other HONEST hand, I realize I feel
    violated because it’s all true at the deepest, most personal levels. I feel
    insulted because I can’t believe I’ve not seen these things before. This
    article makes me honestly ashamed that I’ve let 40 years of my life just
    disappear behind me while I drift through life pretending and lying to myself
    about the things that should have always been the most important.

    But things are damn straight going to be different now. It’s
    going to take some training and work, I tend to have a difficult time breaking
    habits, but I feel like my eyes are open now. I feel completely exposed and
    know what changes I have to make, what things are truly important. These words
    are a life-changer. I could barely get through it the first time, my eyes were
    so full of tears. I’ve read a lot of things that are inspiring and that make me
    feel good about the future, but this tore me completely apart and left me in a
    wreck on the floor — a tangled heap of broken and mangle pieces. But inside
    that wreckage there is the spark of something beautiful that has been there all
    along. Covered up by years of stress, distraction, and my own ego. My inability
    to discern what’s really important and to stay focused on the things that truly
    matter.

    You are right. My life has mostly been a lie, and I see that
    very clearly. There are so many thoughts and emotions swirling around in my old,
    stupid head that I can’t put it all into words. I can’t imagine that anyone
    could really READ this and not be affected in the very center of their being.

    You have just given me a blessing here, sir. And I’m deeply
    grateful to you for it.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      This article was intended to do just what you said. REach into your soul, rip it up through your mouth and smack you in the face with it. It did the same to me as I was writing it.

      This was not about me making other people feel bad, or thinking that I was better than anyone, it was about doing exactly what you said it did for you.

      It was supposed to push you, make you uncomfortable and force you to know why you exist. In whatever way you were meant to exist.

      It is different for all of us but I am glad you are one step closer to finding out. I know I am far from the end of my quest but I love the adventure and maybe one day the world will say that I did something truly amazing but for now, I’ll just keep doing my thing and doing it my way.

      Thanks again, your words inspire me to keep pushing harder.

  51. Tim UNCD
    Tim UNCD says:

    Yo! This was a huge inspiration. I love it.. This article reflects my own thoughts, in a more precise and developped way. I like the aggressive aspect of the article and your way of “throwing” your thoughts in the face of the reader, for me it was a source of motivation and I didn’t think of it as if it was a way to offend me. Your ideas were more than relevant for me, since I’m developping a clothing brand than defends the principles of deviant behaviour and stands against “self-censorship”. Thanks for enlightening a younsters mind.. I would love to have a conversation with you around this topic. Peace

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      My pleasure. I would be lying if I said I didn’t think the tone would ruffle a few feathers but that was my intent. I wanted it to be as big a reality slap to the reader as it was to me when I first discovered I had the power inside me. We all do. We just aren’t taught that anymore.

  52. Michal
    Michal says:

    I’m the “I” in this. And it feels good to read something I would write, if I wrote.

    I understand you completely Raymmar Tirado.

    Well played.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thank you.

      Thank you for not reading it and immediately assume I was yelling at you. For understanding that we are all in this constant struggle to be amazing and it does actually take some individual effort!

  53. a_f_a
    a_f_a says:

    “Because I might not have a degree but I challenge you to find a topic that I can’t talk to you about cohesively.”

    I will agree with most of the others that the article is quite narcissist, however, to me, the article looses any of its validity just for the above extract. What can you say for a person that states the above?

    Good marketing though. Catchy title, into the trend of “fail and succeed” articles and an offensive tone to attract comments. congrats for that

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  54. Jon OfThe Shred
    Jon OfThe Shred says:

    That was one of the lamest things I’ve ever read. Starting each lame piece of patronizing advice with “BECAUSE” made it come across even more self-important and snarky. A chore to skim through

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Yes you are right. It sucked so bad it was shared hundreds of thousands of times.

      Nobody really read it, they just wanted to show other people how bad it was.

      And you? You didn’t log in to leave a comment or anything. Just another normal day on the internet where I read and comment on shit I don’t like.

  55. DT
    DT says:

    Great article. Author: please don’t listen to the people who probably got too offended and could not see the point of the article because of their own defensiveness (most people can’t take criticism and their brain tends to freeze up when they feel that they might be getting criticized, not allowing them to see or hear anything beyond that).
    People reading the article: yes, it may sound harsh at times but try to see beyond that and ignore any moments when you feel like this guy’s being an asshole. He just wants us to WAKE UP and he makes some really good points!

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  56. Anthony Bell
    Anthony Bell says:

    Amazing, blunt, and in your face article. I loved it.

    I quit my safe, boring corporate engineering job last year to do my own thing and I have not regretted it one bit. I have learned more in this short amount of time than my 5 years in college or 2+ years in corporate America. I’ve learned Spanish, started my own business, and am 100x happier than I was before (even though my salary has been cut in half).

    There’s no sense in arguing with people who disagree or find this article “offensive”. They will be happy with their boring, mediocre, safe life which never really amounts to anything.

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  57. SAM SUNG
    SAM SUNG says:

    so you’re arrogant, and you wrote an arrogant article to pump yourself up. putting others(everyone) down, to make yourself feel superior. have fun designing mobile apps, since clearly nobody is doing that at all.

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  58. toots
    toots says:

    I think the reaction of many people reading this, reflected in their comments below, is evidence that in order to bring about positive change, you must be positive and encouraging and not let your own limited and negative observations get in the way of becoming that positive driving force. I believe you have good intentions and this article constitutes the first step in getting to where you’re aiming to go, but you do have a long way to go. I suggest you consider reaching out to folk in order to get there and embrace the people around you positively. In my opinion, even by switching this article from the affirmative into the interrogative; “How, Why, When”, would be more effective in engaging your readership in a positive way. We need to move together and support each other, after all we’re interdependent.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You guys are so freaking funny. You keep telling me how to change to be more successful and reach more people when it is exactly because I am who I am that people are listening.

      I’ll leave being nice to you. You can go out and tell everyone that they are nice, and awesome, even though they aren’t and I’ll keep spitting the truth.

      We will see who is more successful at sparking change.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  59. Bertram Somaweera
    Bertram Somaweera says:

    Interesting article! To realize your weaknesses, and to understand the curious things that you are not doing but others do…..

    I like this part; “Because you refuse to acknowledge that all the power in the world comes from the words of those that lived before us. That anything you desire can be had by searching through the multitude of words that are available to us now more abundantly than ever before”.

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  60. Melissa Matheson
    Melissa Matheson says:

    I can’t believe what I’m reading in these comments! People feel the need to defend themselves?!?! Wait…I do believe what I am seeing here. So often, people feel the need to open their mouths and offer some excuse to someone else, or bash someone else for saying something that strikes their fragile little nerves, rather than visiting where the problem really lies. Inside themselves. If you are so completely happy with what you are doing…why do you need to defend it? Why call someone else’s point of view dumb?

    I say…bravo Mr. Tirado! I have had recent events in my life reveal to me almost ALL of what you are saying here. And you speak the truth (for me anyway, I have had such a similar argument in my own head, it’s scary. Are we related? ;) This article just assured me that regardless of the fear that tries to sneak in and take over, I am on the right track and I’m not crazy. Well, I am, but we might agree that that’s a good thing.

    It’s a funny dichotomy–going with the status quo is easy, yet so many people who do so have such a hard time with it, and they’re miserable. I lived that way, until recently, when I finally decided to jump out of the box that society has tried to lock me up in. It is scary, I do fail, I get rejected, I go forward with ideas that in hindsight were stupid. I don’t necessarily love any of that in the moment. Actually, I hate it. Until I accomplish something. Then, I love all those hardships, because I know that those are what pushed me to wherever I am in the present.

    I am sure you are a busy man, but I am in need of a mentor! If you have the time, I would love to hear from you via personal email. If not, well then at least you have just gained a new follower. Thank you for your brilliant words.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks for understanding the intent of the article. Please subscribe and come back often. We are working on a lot of things here and we are going to connect the creative independent talent all around the world.

  61. TruckinMack
    TruckinMack says:

    ‘Because You Have Not Failed Enough’ I would add, ‘Because taking risks is hard, scarey and you might fail.’ Yep, so much easier to duck and hide than to stand out in front of everyone and say, ‘Follow me.’

    ‘Because You Care What Others Think About You.’ I love this one. Granted I care what my kids think of me, and my wife, and maybe my priest, my brothers and my sisters. Still, stop being afraid of what others might think and go do what you think you should be doing.

    ‘Because You Think You Are Smarter Than You Are.’ I am not much interested in how smart someone is. I am much more interested in how hard they are willing to work; how much they can commit to a project.

    You can stop after these three. If college kids can figure this out, the world is their marketplace.

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  62. Thomas Howard
    Thomas Howard says:

    Really great article! Its very awesome to see you put yourself out there for the whole world to see. Excellent read to get back on track or be introduced to a winning mindset. Its also interesting to notice your weaknesses or perceived weaknesses and identify them in myself! Thanks for that!

    Also really like your site design, its quite similar in aesthetic to my own ;)

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  63. Steven Thomas
    Steven Thomas says:

    After reading this I had a flashback from the movie “Friday” after Craig knocked Debo out with an uppercut and the camera pans to Smokey screaming at the top of his lungs “that’s My Dawg, That’s… My… Dawg”. Case In point this was a much needed mental refresher that should be spread to every indoctrinated “Career Minded” Student.

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  64. kidando
    kidando says:

    Great article my friend. It may not immediately be clear to many that this isn’t really targeting certain types of individuals but is trying to challenge you (the reader) to look at what could possibly be the reason you haven’t gotten off the ground. I guess… Anyway, great stuff man

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Right on. This was as much a reminder to myself as it was to the reader. I imagined someone saying these things to me as a reminder to be the one guy and not the other in the article.

  65. Daniela
    Daniela says:

    The reason this article is irritating: it is not made apparent that these are two voices within yourself. It sounds like you’re arrogant and UNintelligent enough to assume you are the only one who is “untraditional” and a “self-educator”, while all the readers are lemmings. This then goes against the very argument or belief you seem to be promoting in this piece. Not to mention: it is not a dichotomy. One can have a formal diploma/ education and still be an original thinker, skeptical of the spoonfeeding media that surrounds us. In fact, it almost seems like you are trying to compensate for your lack of objective achievement by dismissing those who have followed that path in life.

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I guess you could think that if you only read one article and decided to put me in some box you just created. How you interpret my art is up to you but how I create it is up to me.

    • teddybowties
      teddybowties says:

      what, you can’t see several possibilities for the meaning of any given idea? I always find these five months too late. FUCK.

      Nice article. Maybe. Perhaps it is telling of me that I shall never be sure.

      Plato’s Cave-In.

      badaTSSSs.

  66. Nicole Baldinu
    Nicole Baldinu says:

    Man that slap hurt! I love it though because you’re spot on. Taking yourself out of comfort, security and ‘certainty’ is HARD. I did it myself a few years ago- I used to be a teacher. Now I wouldn’t trade living and working on my terms for anything else. Did I say it was (and continues to be) tough? Hell yeah, but….it’s oh so much fun.

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  67. KZips24
    KZips24 says:

    This article looked like it was going to be a good one, until about halfway through. Maybe it was the 61 “because”s, or maybe it’s cause it started to feel like you started angrily smashing on your keyboard. What an irritating piece of writing. I respect the overall message that was intended through the first half or so, though.

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  68. Frank
    Frank says:

    You have a typo in the second line of “I’m Talkin’ ‘Bout Street Skills Son!”. I think I’ll take my advice from someone who is competent enough to proofread their work.

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    • Your Face
      Your Face says:

      You sound passive aggressive.
      Would you like to hear what I’ve done with my life, and what I’ve been through in my life?
      Having an arrogant man like yourself, spewing nothing but ignoranec, YES, ignorance, is why public speech on internet should be censored. This article is simple and not informative at all. In fact it is only some guys yapping.
      Thanks for the read though. A human brain can never have too much useless information.

    • Lisa Day
      Lisa Day says:

      Frank maybe it’s time for you to retire your Grammar Police badge, and instead… I don’t know, maybe spend your time writing a blog so we all can see what perfect grammar looks like? It’s on my bucket list to gaze my eyes upon, because the good Lord (and some friends) know sometimes I have to scrub up my grammar like it’s a stellar crime scene.

  69. Kevin Thomas Woods
    Kevin Thomas Woods says:

    1. I fail as much as I can with objective of getting
    better every time I come back (I try new things to improve my business and as I’ve
    never done that certain thing before chances are first time around I will fail,
    I then get feedback and try again)

    2. Because you care about what people think – in my
    business if I cared about what people thought about me I could never got to where
    I have got to, when I first began my business most people disagreed and criticised
    what I did therefore If I cared I wouldn’t
    of proceeded. Only sheep care about what others think of them.

    3. You think your smarter than what you are (you
    have an ego problem) I thought I knew everything when I first started out and this held
    me back so much. These days I accept when I’m wrong, I’ll never try come across
    like an expert, I am open minded and I am always open to criticism. Does not
    mean to say I am not confident in what I do. One thing learnt is age is irrelevant
    and you continue to learn every day.

    4. Because you don’t read – I read the books, to
    gain new skills. I struggled to communicate with people at the start so I
    bought a book how to communicate and then went out to practise the skill.

    5. Because you lack curiosity – I’m always
    researching to find more to enable me to become the best version of myself. My mission
    is not to be the greatest but like I said it’s to be the best version of myself.

    6. Because you don’t ask questions – If I want
    something in life ill find someone has what I want and will ask them as many
    questions as possible to find out how I can achieve the same. I’ll keep asking until
    I get the answers.

    7. You can’t handle the truth – I surround myself
    with people who are striving to be the best, I surround my self with people who
    are willing to tell me the truth. I take criticism all the time, if it applies
    ill use it and move forward.

    This is what I got from this
    article and it totally makes sense to me. Thank you for the article Ive shared
    it with my team. you can use this article to improve your life or you can use it to hate on your life.

    When you think big it makes those
    who think small feel uncomfortable. Im with you my friend.

    Apologies for the writing, English is another skill I need to learn ;)

    Kevin

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    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thank you. Lol

      This was an article I wrote to myself. Started as an argument in my head and evolved into what it is now. Don’t pretend to know me because you read half an article.

      Thanks for your feedback though.

    • Lisa Day
      Lisa Day says:

      Suzi you are studying to be a head-shrink? If so may I suggest perhaps a little more study-time or another career choice. You are a little off base on this NPD assessment. The cultural rot of ‘the narcissist’ is what Mr. Tirado fights against daily. Some traits of the narcissistic personality are; They feel they deserve special treatment above anyone, they exaggerate their importance, and lack empathy for anything but themselves.
      Oh, Snap! That sounds like a liberal to me, so perhaps most liberals have narcissistic personality disorder as well?

  70. ZackForester
    ZackForester says:

    If you really believe that structural and societal issues don’t influence your outcome, you’re a sociopath. 43% of people born into families in the bottom quintile stay there as adults. 40% of children raised in the top quintile will stay there as adults. Only 4% of people born in the bottom quintile will rise to the top quintile as adults. We do not live in a meritocracy by any stretch of the imagination. To deny the structural and societal influences that trap the poor in generational poverty is to condone the system under which we find ourselves and be in agreement with the sociopaths that seek to uphold the status quo.

    Reply
    • Morman Tan
      Morman Tan says:

      57% people don’t stay in the bottom quintile. 60% of children do not stay in the top quintile. 4% of people born in the bottom quintile will rise to the top quintile as adults. We live in a meritocracy by any stretch of the imagination and you are just distorting numbers that aren’t definitive and possibly a result of biased research.

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      No, we need to unite and organize to set the country back on the path to the thriving middle class we had from 1945 until 1971/72 unless you’re content with the countries inevitable slide back into the Gilded Age.

    • Lisa Day
      Lisa Day says:

      Settle the country to the past … where we have already been? The past that lead us straight into this mess?! Oh, heck no flipping way! We have a sacred responsibility to act like Americans. As a US Citizen we are obliged to move our country forward, not backwards.

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      Only a sheep would follow the Pied Piper of Lies down the path this country is going which is directly towards a tyrannical oligarchy that sacrifices the blood and sweat of it’s people on the altar of the Military/Security/Police State and the ever expanding corporatocracy. Corporate profits are at an all time high while debt, unemployment, and wealth disparity are higher than they were during the great depression. You need to wake up and start standing up for your neighbors because after they’re thrown out on their asses, YOU’RE NEXT.

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      We were on the right path until people who consequently ignorant and politically illiterate allowed their national sovereignty and the basic principles of self-determination to be co-opted by plutocrats. If you insist on dragging the rest of the country down this path with you, there won’t be a country left to move forward with.

    • Lisa Day
      Lisa Day says:

      What path…the path of the past mistakes we are on now? We need fresh and new ideas not repeats of the same stale ones. We need to get out of our comfort-zones and stop the insanity of jumping back on the hamster wheels of life! The Plutocrats and the poor have always been, and will always be with us those are facts. So, what changed? Think outside that box you are in.

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      We were on the right path in the 40s, 50s, and 60s until Nixon opened trade with communist China and flooded the US with goods produced with near slave labor and uncoupled our currency for the gold standard, forever devaluing it through inflation and rampant printing without taxation to take it out of circulation. 90% top tax rates are out of the comfort zones of most people because they’ve been watered down and brainwashed to believe that tax breaks for the wealthy creates jobs for the middle class. It doesn’t, it never has, and the CRS did a study that proved their was no correlation between those two things. Until we get the middle class back to work earning family sustaining wages and equalizing social mobility for the those born into poverty with those born to the rich, this country has no future. The robber barons have returned and no one bats an eyelash as they extract trillions in blood money from this country while our children go without food, our poor go homeless, our elderly go without needed medicine, and our veterans go without healthcare. What changed? The people changed. They became impassive to the plight of their neighbors because it “wasn’t their problem”. People know what made America great post WW2 and the path back to that greatness is obvious but the majority are too cowed and too afraid to make the necessary sacrifices to bring us back there.

    • Lisa Day
      Lisa Day says:

      Hey now – America will always have a future, as long as those of us who are not fair-weather patriots are around.
      The people changed. You are on the right track and have the correct time frame. Nice, my question is this: How does one control the mindset of so many without them being aware of it?
      Jedi mind tricks?
      What was one of the greatest changes in American history after WW2 …..?
      (drum roll)
      :) I know; I’m full of questions. You seem
      full of answers, no doubt you can handle them.

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      I’m not going to address the idea that the US is impervious to collapse or dissolution. Historically, all empires eventually crumble under the weight of their own corruption. And yes, the people changed in same ways for the better and in some ways for the worse. The greatest change in American history after WW2 was that they put a television in every US household. How do you control the mindset of so many without them being aware of it? You brainwash them by centralizing the dissemination of all information in the hands of 5 corporations. If you can control what people know, than you can control how they will react and if you repeat lies over and over again, eventually people start to believe them. It doesn’t make the lie any truer; it just means more people are wrong.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Zach,

      I can’t tell if you agree or disagree with my perspective but I could not agree with you more.

      I would actually take it one step further and say that it has gotten worse over time. We have begun to accept lies as truth and where this road leads is far beyond the reach of my imagination. Although I have some pretty interesting ideas of how it looks.

      I would encourage you to read some of my other stuff if you want a better perspective about who I am and my message as a whole.

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      I agree with you can grow as an individual by doing all the things on this list but that your financial success is heavily limited by the family you were born into and that 4 out of 10 people in the top 10% of incomes are there because they inherited their parents success, whether they actually earned it based on their merits or not. It’s absolutely gotten worse over the last 40 years. We took the greatest economic powerhouse the world has ever known with one of the highest upward social mobilities the world has ever known and reversed just about every advancement we had achieved over the previous 40 years. I don’t think anyone can imagine exactly where continuing down this road will take us but I think if you look at the collapse of the empires that proceeded us (Russian, Japanese, British, Persian, Chinese, Mongolian, Roman) none of them ever return to former glory (with the possible exception the Chinese and only after a millennium). After reading some of your responses to the other comments, I think we see things more eye to eye than I initially thought based on my limited exposure to this single article.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Again, I agree with the premise, mostly, but I don’t think we can stop fighting to change it.

      I’m not sure about your numbers but I know a lot of self made men and I know that there are a lot of people trying to make something of themselves.

      I agree that we will never reclaim the title once we collapse the empire but we are not there yet.

      We can wake up the masses and empower the individual. We can shake up the system and still make a difference in this world.

      I’m just trying to do my small part. Thanks for your thoughts.

    • Aramchek
      Aramchek says:

      Just out of interest what do you mean by fair weather patriots? Someone who supports America for it’s ideals of liberty, but draws the line when they act as world police. Someone who is proud to be part of a country with such a strong identity and culture, but doesn’t want to be associated with the installation of puppet dictators and facilitation of the flow of wealth in to a small number of pockets? A country without any choice in politics, with parties funded to the point and campaigns crafted beautiful so that popular consensus is split right down the middle, and the turkeys will once again happily vote for christmas?

    • ZackForester
      ZackForester says:

      Why did only 4% rise to the top and not the other ~6% that would have risen as well? Either they were extremely lucky and beat their odds or their success was so great that they managed to make to make it into the top 10% even while being held back. Even if every single one of them was ahead of the curve, the other 60% failed because of the system.

  71. Eric Thomas
    Eric Thomas says:

    You just sound like a Type A with severe OCD. Quit patting yourself on the back, like you said “You’re not as smart as you think you are.”

    Reply
    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I am both of those things but they do not define me. Who are you to tell me what I am or am not? What have you done? How have you exposed yourself to the world? Where is your article on Huffington Post? Viral Blog or cohesive thought put out to the world in an attempt to help form its direction? What are you doing that makes you the authority on anything other than being a dick?

  72. Khoa Ngo
    Khoa Ngo says:

    Mr. Tirado,
    I find this article somewhat offensive to the reader. Although I find the titles very interesting and gripping, I would like to say that the writings following them were irritating to read. The article was very enjoyable overall. However, I think that you were focusing just a little bit too much on yourself. There were instances with “I did this. I did that” where I didn’t quite enjoy reading through. I am a freshmen from the University of Georgia and I’ve done extensive independent researches and studies on Graph Theory, a branch of mathematics. And even then, I wasn’t offended when you unintentionally disregarded my work. What I was angry about was when you claimed yourself to be this unmatched superior person, while you’ve never even introduced yourself. This article boasts a ‘I am writing this and I am god if I said so’ attitude. It is akin to wearing short to church. Mr. Tirado, I would to hear from you soon.

    Reply
    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      This article was a battle between the voices in my head. It was me talking to myself. I do not refute the benefit for some in higher leaning but that is not what this post was about.

    • 2303sunshine
      2303sunshine says:

      I can understand your response here (that you were talking to yourself). I saw this article as a wake up call for myself, something for people to internalize and use as motivation. It did not make me feel defensive. How could you actually be criticizing anyone reading the article – of course you don’t know the people reading it, so that could not be possible. Instead, I think you have given a gift to people on how to challenge themselves and to reach beyond their comfort zones. I suppose it’s a tough love, drill sergeant approach rather than butterflies and happy thoughts. But there is room for both. I have difficulty being tough on other people (so I would not likely write from this perspective), but I do want to push myself to be exceptional in any way I can, so I appreciated reading it. Thank you for taking the time to write this, and for sharing it.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I love you for understanding that! Thanks for putting it so eloquently. I might copy and paste it to share with the other haters.

      I am very self critical of myself. I am my own drill sergeant because I have to be. Because that is the only way I get better.

      So when I write I am just giving you a glimpse into the chaos that is my brain.

    • Trelani Duncan
      Trelani Duncan says:

      I agree with 2303sunshine. It was thought-provoking and a detailed confirmation for what most of the article’s readers already knew anyway. Very well-written, straightforward and engaging from the title to the comments. Thanks for sharing :)

    • Someone
      Someone says:

      Wow Raymmar, that changes EVERYTHING! If you could have somehow indicated in the article itself that these were your internal voices it would have been remarkable. I relate to such dilemmas and internal conflicts. The problem is, I believe, that you let the world see you in a negative light and just add to the judgment you were already putting on yourself from inside. You don’t deserve criticism. But next time try to make that more clear – for your own sake.
      I don’t know if you got a chance to read my response to your article, so here it is- http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/7-proofs-that-you-are-amazing/ thanks for generating this important discussion. And you should know that YOU are AMAZING!

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I did read your response and I thank you for taking the time to write it but I think it was a cop out. I get your positive tone but honestly I am so over people just pretending like life is easy and friendly and gymdrops and lollypops.

      The reason this has gone viral internationally is because people are desperate for this type of content. The tone was purposeful. The tone was intended to crawl under your skin and make you uncomfortable. Not to passify and make people feel good about themselves.

      Most people who looked past their own arrogance were able to see this and I am not accusing you of that here but so many people are quick to look at things only skin deep as opposed to actually digging deeper to see the true meaning of the art.

      Thanks for sharing your comments.

    • Maggie Rae
      Maggie Rae says:

      Thank you for such a thought provoking article. I didn’t feel offended or insulted at all. Many of the things you talked about are things that I have experienced in my own life (and to some degree, I still experience).

      I somehow felt vindicated in my own approach to life; because I have always gotten a lot of criticism for being an avid reader, and for my interests in life. I will admit that I often feel bad when people point these things out to me (about me).

      Consequently, I’m very careful about what I talk about when in the company of other people; usually not saying too much. So, thank you, I needed that kind of talk.

    • shameka
      shameka says:

      I really like this article. Very well written… I couldn’t stop reading it I ended a call to finnish this article amazing work. I wish I would have written it!

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Awesome! Thanks for the compliments. I wish I could write it again too. It is amazing what takes off online and how people respond to other peoples thoughts when shared in this fashion.

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

    • shari kohan
      shari kohan says:

      I also found an unnecessary arrogant tone.
      I grew up more in small town main stream then happily found my way to more authentic life in the fringes.
      Sometimes tho I found people like the author in the fringes who seemed to hate everyone in the mainstream.
      I hate the system of the mainstream and sheep mentality.
      And I really hate the ladder system of I’m better than you. So i also hate out in the fringes when it’s just flip flopped to who you hate. That’s what I found here.

      Change the system! My motto.
      With less anger I think I’d find the push yourself attitude way more appealing.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thats what everyone tells you. Change this or do that. Make it different here or do that there. But what I have discovered over the last two years is that I know exactly who I am and no one can tell me different.

      I have followed my passions and been through ups and downs but as soon as I stopped listening to people telling me to change my tone and “be nicer” I started building traction and gaining readership.

      People are desperate for the hard hitting truth. I am a flawed individual and I think it is time we accepted that we all are. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t all be trying to step up our game. To be better at something. One thing. Whatever you need that to be. Family, community, friendship, blogging, business…whatever! Just DO something. But to live without a pursuit… without a dream, vision or desire? What kind of miserable existence that must be!

    • shari kohan
      shari kohan says:

      The fact you get more readership when you stop listening to advice of being nicer means two things to me. Things do seem to open up and flowwhen you are authentic and this world is now driven almost completely by assholes stepping on whoever they need to to get ahead. Congrats

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I am nice… sometimes. I am just blunt. Suck it up.

      Life is hard. Quit being a cry baby and take the tough criticism to heart. Why should I worry about hurting someones feelings with my words, on my blog?

      Please, tell me again why your opinion of how the world should work is better than mine? Why your opinion to be nice is any different from my harsh approach. From my introspective approach to pushing people to be amazing? From making people uncomfortable in an attempt to inspire change. You think people change when everything feels nice and cozy? When life is gum drops and lolly pops? Get a clue!

      What social waves are you making? Where is your art or your movement? How many people have you affected with your “nice” message?

      Oh, and by the way, here you are, engaged in a conversation, with a guy you disagree with, on an article you claim to not like. Who is the winner? Who made the impact? Who crawled under your skin from across the internet?

      It was me. I reached out and slapped you with my words and it hurt. It was meant to. It was supposed to do just what it did and that is the funny part about all of this.

      I set out to do something and then I did it and somehow I am wrong? I should have done something different. Changed the message to what? Please you?

      Who is the arrogant one now? Who is the one who is so full of themselves that an article online made them so uncomfortable they had to reach out and try to change the mind of a guy who clearly stated that your opinion was not important to the decisions he makes in life or otherwise.

      To all of you haters: You wreak of insecurity and it is a shame that the most in need of the message of this article choose to ignore it, even after having had it kick them in the teeth.

    • shari kohan
      shari kohan says:

      I was actually giving you kudos for being authentic and not overly nice.
      Even if you come across as an authentic ass. I don’t mind people with an edge. Just don’t think you or everyone else needs to go into constant slash mode.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I am sorry, I have been reading and responding to these things a mile a minute and I let a lot fly there that was not necessarily intended directly to you. I just hate that people think that people who try hard, or sound like me, or get in your face to try to inspire you are made out to be stepping on people.

      I think if you actually knew me you would find that I love to help others and I am always looking to empower people to do better.

      I just dont buy the BS any more. The people who talk about doing things but never really do. So I just started doing things and a few years later, here I am and the whole world is listening.

      That is an empowering quest when you throw in everything else that rounded up the last decade of my life.

      Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

    • Romain Bigaré
      Romain Bigaré says:

      you sound terribly cheesy and arrogant. you’d be perfect for those “life changing” conferences cycle they do in the us. they could even do a movie about you – a young blogger who know a couple of things about the internet and its language, and who has the superpower to inspire people. “Superblogger” sounds cool.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Oh how people pretend to know me because they read a single article. And I’m the cheesy, arrogant, self centered prick!

      Thanks for your thoughts but you and the rest of the haters are exactly why this world is falling to shit.

      You judge, criticize and indict without a bit of understanding. Your jokes are weak, your opinions are flawed and you project your insecurities to the world like a baby vomits on a new shirt.

      Unable to control yourself, desperate to be heard but unwilling to speak out except in an attempt to divide and destroy.

    • Aida
      Aida says:

      I’ve read this article in serbian language( mother tounge). And I was so mad, but they did translate it with word destroy more than often,a lot more. So I ended up thinking who the fuck is this lunatic who thinks he can destroy anyone, why he thinks that everyone sees success as he does, why it is important for us to know what he knows and reads? And millions of other angry questions hit my head. Well even heading was all wrong, you have written anything amazing with life, and they’ve written anything at all. So much lost in translation… And now that I’ve seen some of your comments I can see that you are not just selfcentered (you are, but I am also so I can’t judge you for that:) but that you actualy want to wake people up…. Well you still care, but there are so many disgusting people out there and you can not make them different. I will not change the world, I will just be around those people that are great for me, fix my world and enjoy those I love, and hope that no one will hurt them. Nothing really ever changed when it comes to people, they repeat same mistakes over and over, only time passes by, and they change the way for doing the same mistake… Here is few extreme examples, people kill each other for lets say diamonds, but it is only the hardest rock and nothing more, they fight for money which is paper they got from cutting woods, very smart… You get penalty if you walk your dog without plastic bags by your side, but what is degradable? And do they stop by to think where it will go. They think that the Planet is really all those states, they believe they need to wote, they think that their religion is only true one, they kill animals for their horns like that is of some real value for them etc etc, I could do this all they long… Maybe I am just negative girl, but I don’t think there is hope at all for humans, and those great people can’t do much, they are in minority… We are not that important so if we go extinct nothing will really change, Earth will be here as long as Sun is here and that is the whole truth…

    • Andrea
      Andrea says:

      Because you feel offended by other people’s opinions and you cannot read between the lines. Because you take it personally instead of asking yourself if it fits you at all. Because you think there are superior and inferior people and that there is some sort of standard to compare yourself with. Because you can’t be true to yourself and admit where and why you are wrong. Because you have to feed your ego insead of feeding your soul.

    • Medisa Hasic
      Medisa Hasic says:

      I think this article was meant for someone like you (Khoa N.). No wonder you were offended, because you obviously do not understand it. As to the author, bravo for the article. Refreshing, very needed. If only those who this article is addressed to would react favourably.

    • crickette gill
      crickette gill says:

      Awesome post and spot on. I am doing what I deem to b amazing by hosting my own Internet radio show (no it’s not a podcast from my garage) – the chatterbox w/Crickette. I find the freedom and flexibility of it all highly addictive. I can’t turn it off – which is how I know it’s right. I get everything u r saying here: it’s the absolute truth! You must try again and again until you break through

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I too run a podcast but it is out of my living room. Nothing wrong with that. I actually have a pro style set up and it is a lot of fun to just have people come over and talk about random things that affect all of us in life.

  73. Ensorcel
    Ensorcel says:

    8) There’s nothing amazing or meaningful left for humans to do, because human advancement is now inhibited. Burning our fuel, “treating” chronic illnesses, etc are the most profitable approaches, so good luck replacing them.

    Reply
    • d wolfy
      d wolfy says:

      If you think there’s nothing amazing or meaningful left for people to do you’re lacking perspective. Nobody can successfully predict progress but there’s no way there would ever be progress with defeatism. Throw your hands in the air and say “I give up” meanwhile the rest of us will continue to look at problems and try our hardest to solve them.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I couldn’t agree more. I used to think we were screwed as I started to learn how big a hole we were in as a nation and now I think that we will save it. With people like us working our asses off to wake up the masses and not take no for an answer.

  74. Ruchika
    Ruchika says:

    Wow..Viral is the word.I liked it.I agree with most of the parts.I have left my job to follow my passion and it has been going great!I am yet to fail enough though.!Thanks for writing and sharing :) Love

    Reply
    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I do not mean people should fail on purpose or in business as a general rule. I mean that they should not be afraid to try something new, give it their all and then be content in knowing that it was not their particular cup of tea.

      You are chasing your dreams! Good for you! Thanks for sharing.

  75. Gregory Smith
    Gregory Smith says:

    What a load of crap.

    “1 :: Because You Have Not Failed Enough”

    Oh yeah? What is enough then? If I sell T-Shirts how many campaigns have to fail? 10? 50? 100? Do I get into $10,000 of debt just to fail enough? Or do I quit while I’m still ahead? I’d rather quit something that’s not working than continue on the road to perdition just so some jerk can tell me I have failed enough

    “2 :: Because You Care What Others Think About You”

    I don’t, but not every introvert is successful and some professions do require you to buy nice clothes and drive nice cars. A realtor that looks like crap doesn’t inspire confidence.

    3 :: Because You Think You Are Smarter Than You Are

    Since I don’t measure myself against other people, the point is irrelevant. What I think of myself only matters to me.

    4 :: Because You Don’t Read

    I read all the time, on Facebook, eBooks, news sites, blogs, so what? All the knowledge in the world won’t give you an edge if you’re a crappy salesman. The guy with the big personality and salesmanship will always beat me no matter what I know.

    5 :: Because You Lack Curiosity

    Why should I give a crap about string theory and quamtum mechanics? I’m not a theoretical physicist, so acquiring that knowledge lacks purpose, and anything that lacks purpose is evil.

    I’m curious about things that make me money or entertain me. I doubt Steve Jobs was curious about French cuisine and Stephen King, yet I am.

    6 :: Because You Don’t Ask Enough Questions

    Questions to whom? To people that don’t give answers? Ridiculous.

    7 :: Because You Can’t Handle The Truth

    I embrace the truth in all it’s ugliness. I’m called a pessimist because I see A as A, not B or C.

    We all serve an individual purpose on this earth. Some write great books, others read them, some make great food, others eat it, some serve in the military, others clap at the parade, but it’s unrealistic to feel bad about not doing something great when you lack either ability or drive or both.

    Man is limited by many factors, and to deny them is to deny reality. As an Objectivist, I never deny reality. And while fans of Ayn Rand are often accused of being simplistic, we would never write a dumb article telling millions of people why they will never do anything great.

    Reply
    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You totally missed the point of the article.

      Not to mention that you read this “dumb article” all the way through and then decided to leave a novel of a comment on it. So who wins here?

      This article started as an argument between the voices in my head. I wrote if for me and it just so happened to go viral.

      You obviously have life figured out so I won’t respond point by point. I agree with much of what you said actually. But that again was not the point of the article.

      Thanks for reading my dumb article and for sharing your thoughts. I wish you the best.

    • Gregory Smith
      Gregory Smith says:

      I’ll give you credit for writing an article that went viral, that everyone is sharing. But you see? I’m not like everyone else, I don’t just accept things at face value. Maybe I was harsh in calling it dumb, but it made me angry. I don’t blame anyone for my lack of success, but I don’t accept that your list will make me successful. I wish you the best as well, and I recommend you sign up for Google Adsense so you can start making money from PPC.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      The list is not intended to make anyone successful. It was intended to get people to think. To dig inside themselves like I am doing myself and push themselves to be the best version of themselves as possible.

      When I talked about failing I meant in a sense of going out and trying new things. Not accepting the status quo.

      As for the advertising, I am not really interested in it at the moment. I am working on some monetizaiton strategies for this website but they will not involve spammy advertising to my audience.

      Check out COI if you have not already. http://raymmar.com/my-blog/circles-influence/coi

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Thanks for the heads up. I fixed the link. Thanks for the compliment and the critique. This is not about right or wrong brother. This is about the conversations and exploration of the human condition.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Oh and thanks for the love on the site design. The timing of this article going viral could not have been better. I was releasing the new site design this weekend as it was starting to take off so my soft launch turned into more of a hard launch. It is still a work in progress but I have some awesome stuff coming up in the near future and this site will continue to grow.

    • Dudeface
      Dudeface says:

      Gregory,

      What is your measure of success?

      Your T-shirt example tells me that you may be too focused on one particular thing.

      This (the subject of Rt’s post) isn’t about success with business alone. This is about success in our self betterment and becoming more understanding. Trying and failing at as many subjects/skills as we can in our finite little time on Earth. One can be very successful in business but have little or no wisdom.

      Expand your focus to ‘knowledge’ and then you’ll see what he is talking about. If you take it personally, that’s on you.

      Even if you look at the T-Shirt example you proposed, there are tons of other factors. Just to mention a few parameters:

      How well do you know, understand and researched your customers? What kind of T-Shirt are you selling? Did you do market research before investing $10K? How saturated is the market? (The more saturated a market is, the more clever you’ll need to be to make it) How effective is your advertising method? Do you know if the advertising works at all? Have you done everything you can to gather real feedback as opposed to trying to guess what sells? Do you understand what is wanted and needed? Do you know what age/gender/culture/etc. is your target? (if that applies) Do you know what your target wants? Do you know how to inspire your target? Do you understand the principles of real market research and feedback? What are you changing between each attempt/campaign?

      In general when things do not go well or as you hoped/imagined you have made the first successful step. You have successfully failed. Whatever you do, do not look at it just as “I failed”. I failed as planned/expected is the way to go especially in such a crowded market. Every bloody and his brother is making T-Shirts. Then you need to get up and roll up your sleeves and get out there! Get involved. Don’t just sit at home and figure figure. Get some real freaking life experience. Do it yourself. Get dirty and get ready for your next fail. Then analyze the shit out of it. Then learn and try again.

      “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

    • Gregory Smith
      Gregory Smith says:

      Having a niche is not a bad thing, I have done t-shirts unrelated to guns and they have been huge failures, they don’t even get likes. Everything else you said is correct, to answer some of your questions, I’m not sure I know what my target wants, advertising is not a science and testing and polling can only get you so far. Sometimes a focus group for example hates something that everyone else loves, other times it’s the opposite. At this point I’ve learned when to kill a campaign, I follow the rule of 100 clicks, if I can’t make at least one sale with after 100 clicks on my advertising, I just kill the ad. This has saved me money.

    • GarryMoss
      GarryMoss says:

      It’s because you and I think more like the 1 percent, and they think like the kind of people who are big into justification.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      I agree that we do not teach this type of thinking anymore as a general rule but I won’t go as far as falling into the stereotype of percentages.

      We all have a talent. Something that we were meant to do on this earth and I just want as many people as possible to understand and encourage themselves to step out of their comfort zone to do it.

      “Give me your tired, your poor,
      Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free”. – we used to believe in this. Now we throw them out like wastes if society. Ignore them
      Because they can’t play in your circles.

      I don’t fit in your box. And by you, I mean society. So don’t try to put me in one.

      Thanks for your thoughts.

    • Kaye LaFond
      Kaye LaFond says:

      Who is “You and I”? Who is “they”? Raymmar: valid points all around, but pitting yourself against “them” is a flaw. We are humans. You are them. You want to shake them and wake them? Then don’t pretend that you aren’t one.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      You miss the point. I was them in this article. This was me telling myself what a bad ass would tell me in this situation. It was me struggling with the back and forth of success and failure. It was me reassuring myself that it has not been a waste of time. It was a lot of things but that’s why the people loved it. Because they understood that I was them. That I was flawed, am flawed and just struggling to be better.

    • Claudia Al-Meida
      Claudia Al-Meida says:

      Why so angry? I think you are failing to see the big picture here.

      1. About failing enough… If you are in a business that makes you miserable, that’s a failure. If you are living your life in a way that doesn’t fulfill you, that’s a failure. You are thinking in terms of money as the only way a person can fail in life. Expand your mind!

      2. OMG… Barbara Corcoran (The queen of Real State if you haven’t heard of her) became known for her crazy coat. “I marched into Bergdorf Goodman and I found this great 1970s coat with fur on the collar and this crazy brown color,” she laughs, remembering that day. “I wore it everyday.” She thought outside the box. And that alone set her apart from others.

      3. Nothing to say here. This is possible the best thing you wrote in the entire post :o)

      4. The guy with a big personality is very likely to be a very knowledgeable person!

      5. I think you are missing the point here… you don’t have to read EXACTLY what’s on the post! haha “Open your mind to new things” is the main message here. Agreed?

      6. I was putting on weight and I asked myself “Why”? Did some research and learned about wheat and weight gain. Cut the wheat, lost the weight. I asked a question, I went after the answers and as a result, I am not longer a fatass. Ask the internet anything, and you shall get the answer.

      7. I don’t think you can handle the truth. But that’s ok :o)

  76. Cayleb Terekhov
    Cayleb Terekhov says:

    Great article, Raymmar; I’m glad you took the time to write them out, and will print a subset of the items I need to work on the most. Thanks for the (always timely) reminder to push harder at improving ourselves.

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    • Sarah Mullen
      Sarah Mullen says:

      I have always read pretty much anything I could get my hands on, from magazine articles, to signs in doctor’s offices, lol! However, I have to take SOME exception to this article. Mainly I see my job as being a mom. We also have two businesses however, and I help run those, one is a carpet cleaning business, the other is Big Noise Productions, which is basically an event center, but we have mainly done DJ parties. I don’t know that we are doing big things in this world, for me, it is really enough to just raise and enjoy my kids. However, I do read everything I can on poverty, race, LGBT, and I really am trying to raise awareness, if I can do nothing else. Really, I just want my kids to be raised the old fashioned way, by a mom who’s THERE when they get home from school, and that may be my biggest contribution to the world.

    • Raymmar Tirado
      Raymmar Tirado says:

      Being a good mom is definitely amazing.

      The basic premise of this article was to push people to be the best version of themselves as possible. That has nothing to do with fame or notoriety.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    • DISCO
      DISCO says:

      And that’s just it isn’t it?? “the basic premise of this article was to push people to be the best version of themselves as possible”. I can’t believe the amount of people who actually took offence or had a problem with this article lol. How about anytime anyone writes anything positive, we just do whatever we can to yell louder that they are wrong…I love it.

      Everything about everything you wrote…was 100 percent correct. You actually can’t argue it. If your opinion differ’s than that of the author…then guess what…you have a difference of opinion. The point is, haters will ALWAYS be haters, angry people will always be angry. Some of us though…will take all those stats and facts and shove them up something’s a$$ and make a difference. Doesn’t have to be for the world on a global scale, but we will make a difference no matter the magnitude and how many times we’ve had bad luck. No matter how many times our business fails, or other people have failed us. Never give up and stop complaining. It’s just Earth, don’t forget we all live here and there is way more to life on this planet than a mortgage and car payment.

      DISCO

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