Apparently, when it comes to the question of pretending to play hide and seek, CEO’s of major corporations, Major League Ball Players, Hollywood actors, NFL athletes, and even a random guy in Sarasota Florida, all answer the same way. “Yeah!”
“But the crazy thing…” As Steve starts in on his presentation, “is that there is no winner in the game hide and seek.”
As adults, we are accustomed to having a winner. Someone always needs to “win” something, because after all, we need to get paid, we need to eat, and we need to provide for our families.
But as children, none of that stress exists. As kids, we’re all ok with running around, hiding and seeking with no need for a real winner or loser. The chase being all the motivation needed to engage with someone, with something… for hours.
It was the perfect introduction to the idea that turning your own presentations into an engaging experience is really what mesmerizing a crowd is all about.
It’s about making the audience feel like they are experiencing something very familiar, but for the very first time. To leave the audience thinking that at any moment, anything could happen.
To leave them sitting there as if they were young children on Christmas Eve. Wanting. Wondering. Waiting.
How to Mesmerize A Crowd
One of the most interesting parts of the whole night for me was that Steve was being completely open about everything he was doing as he did it. He was actually walking the audience through the process at each step and confirming everything he was doing along the way.
Which brings me to step 1 of mesmerizing a crowd.
1: Ask the crowd for permission
The first thing Steve did when he came out on stage was to ask the crowd for permission. He reassured them with positivity, explained a few ground rules, and then asked for their permission to proceed.
I have seen other performers do this, and I never really thought about it much because I never really looked at it from this perspective.
On the surface, it might seem a little silly for the guy who’s supposed to be on stage to ask for permission, but let me explain why I think it is such an important first step.
First of all, it allows the audience to buy in. From the very first moments, they must verbally commit to being present.
Up until that point, their only responsibility had been to show up, but asking their permission to move forward puts the audience back in control, even if only symbolically. They are no longer just along for the ride, they have officially become part of the show.
2: Take the crowd to a familiar place
After asking for permission from the crowd, Steve then engaged a spectator from the front row, and started to dive deeper into the story. This is when he asked the guy in the front row if he wanted to play.
Within a few minutes, he had the whole room re-living their childhood memories of playing hide and seek. Something that allowed him to get everyone in the room to forget that they were supposed to be there learning about leadership, and instead let them thinking about how care-free that time in their lives had been.
In that moment, anything was possible. And from that moment on, the audience was his.
The audience was instantly able to relate to the concept of not needing a winner in a game like hide and seek. Instead allowed the idea of intrinsic motivation to set in without an in-your-face motivational pep talk that might otherwise leave them feeling a little self conscious.
By putting everyone in a familiar place, Steve made everything feel more natural. He allowed us to connect the dots in our own heads, which means the concepts were much more likely to stick. It also means that the ideas he was sharing became more empowering.
It was as if Steve had stopped time, jumped inside our brains and planted a seed that he would then water throughout the rest of the performance.
3: Make the crowd laugh
At times throughout the presentation I forgot I was supposed to be learning about leadership and thought I was sitting inside of a comedy club instead.
I know that not everyone can bring down the house like a professional actor who is formally trained in the art of improvisation, but I needed to point out that being comfortable while presenting your premise is a big part of mesmerizing the crowd.
It becomes impossible for an audience to fully settle in when the presenter themselves is uptight or taking things too seriously.
No one expects you to be perfect, and as Steve pointed out a number of times, neither is he. He did however use those imperfections to his benefit. Making jokes about himself and finding ways to paint the experiences of every day life into beautiful metaphors about how to develop effective leadership skills.
4: Keep the crowd close
Throughout the presentation Steve took time to embrace the atmosphere in the room and enjoy himself with the audience.
At one point he had the whole room shouting suggestions aloud, and then a moment later, laughing uncontrollably.
Then, he would let the silence set in as he drew us all in for whatever he was about to say next.
It was in those moments when he emphasized his purpose and made his points. In the moments when we were all wondering what he was going to say next. In the moments when you could hear a pin drop in a crowd of almost 200. When the laughter stopped and attention was at its peak.
5: Remind the crowd why they came
At one point, towards the end of the presentation, the guy sitting next to me leaned over and asked “Yeah, but what did we learn?”
Up until now everything had been about keeping us engaged and feeding us small bits of information. Placing dots on a map, never letting us see the whole picture.
Eventually Steve would tie it all together and allow us all to connect the dots he had been drawing throughout the night. Once again, allowing us to understand the complete concept ourselves as opposed to him having to spoon feed it to us.
This is how true masters teach their students.
It’s why storytelling is such a powerful tool of persuasion, and why it was only at the end of his presentation that Steve showed us how everything we had just seen could effectively teach us about leadership.
6: Close the conversation with purpose
There was no fancy finish, or top-secret super expensive 8-step program that you could purchase in order to keep improving on the concepts Steve was trying to teach us. In fact there was not much at all. When Steve finished, there was only silence, and then, applause.
He had said all he needed to say up to that point, and there was no need for anything else.
The points he made, and the way he made them painted a vivid picture of what he was trying to do. And every part of his presentation lead to one complete thought. After that thought was delivered, the only thing left to do, was bow, and walk off the stage. Which is powerful way to end a presentation like this.
And in my opinion is the purpose of this article, along with any other material that is truly designed to help you empower yourself.
It’s why there is no need for false motivation or loud televangelist style sermons on how to become a better ___________ (fill in the blank).
Because all you really need to mesmerize a crowd is a good story, a well thought out message, and a genuine desire to deliver valuable information to the audience.
And in our digital age, doing those three things right is a powerful recipe for success.
P.s. Don’t forget to practice the shit out of all of it.
Like a short movie playing out in real time, there was a certain cadence to Steve’s presentation that could only come from being well rehearsed, if not choreographed.
It also means that mesmerizing a crowd requires you to be comfortable and confident in the things you are presenting.
In order to become that comfortable, you must practice like a madman. That is something guys like Steve will never tell you, and something you will never see on stage.
- Did I miss anything?
- Did I get it all wrong?
- Got a tip for how to mesmerize a crowd?
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