Happiness is not what you think it is.
You may think you know happy because you have a good job, live a healthy life and have a few friends but guess what…
It could all be gone tomorrow.
In the blink of an eye you could lose it all and then the true test would begin. Then we would all get to see how strong you really are.
In a moment of broken brilliance, you would have to reassess everything you thought made you happy. You would be left looking deep into the dark abyss of what used to be your life and wonder what went wrong.
You would have to reach deep into your soul and have an honest conversation with yourself about what it is that truly makes you happy and you might just find out that you have had it wrong all along.
Maybe then you would realize that It’s is all up to you!
In that dark moment you might realize that happiness is more about understanding that you are perfectly flawed as opposed to thinking about flawlessly perfect you might be.
It is about understanding that you are not the picture of perfection you try to present to the world. You will find that it’s about understanding you’ll never be perfect and learning to embrace yourself anyway.
Happiness is the ability to know how imperfect you actually are and still being able to stand up to the world like none of it really matters.
Why? Well… because at the end of the day, very little of it actually does. In the real world, the only thing that matters is what you want to matter. What you decide to make important in your life.
“Happiness lies somewhere in between desperation and motivation and it often waits until we quit looking for it before revealing itself to us.”
You have to attack happiness by understanding that you were put on earth with a mission to do something amazing. However, you must also understand that it doesn’t have to be that way. It is up to you to you to make sure it goes down in the history books just how you see it. You, and no one else.
Doing that thing you love.
The power of doing or even chasing something you love is highly underrated. People talk about it all the time but very few actually do it. Fewer yet follow through and find fulfillment and financial independence doing what they love but for those who can it is a beautiful thing.
Most people are caught up in their own lives, trying to scrape by, feed a family, enjoy a day off once in a while and then waking up to do it all again the next day. Stuck in the status-quo, unwilling to let go.
Unwilling to jump into the deep end, fearing the water below might be too shallow. Feeling as if they cannot make the jump while watching others walk right up to the edge and take that leap of faith.
You sit there and watch others dive head first into happiness, while sitting back pretending to enjoy it for yourself from the sidelines. Fearing the failure that might just lead you to finally find it.
But, but, but… you just don’t understand…
Oh, I understand all too well. I understand that there is something in your life that you think is holding you back. Something that you honestly believe is keeping you from becoming the person you know you are supposed to be.
We all have our Kryptonite. Maybe a better description would be to say that we all hold on to what we think is our Kryptonite. Thinking that we are Superman and must succumb to its power. Not knowing that this is the real world and what we perceive as Kryptonite is really just a stupid weight we carry around in our heads.
“It’s an excuse you idiot, not some magical rock that has somehow hindered your ability to fly.”
We place these obstacles in our own path as if we were not resourceful enough to find a way around them. As if deep down we didn’t know that we could just walk around, step over, crawl under or otherwise get past this one thing that just seems to keep holding us back.
The reality is that we are often the only ones holding ourselves back. More often than not, you, and only you, are the reason for a lack of amazing accomplishments in life.
It’s all in your head.
You may not want to admit it yet but you know it’s true.
You know that these little voices inside your head are just the different versions of you, fighting among themselves to try and find a place inside of your consciousness. Fighting to find a place in a world of thought that begins and ends with you.
The more you get to know them, the more you can understand how to use them to enhance one another as opposed to letting them interfere with your life. You have to be willing to acknowledge the evil thoughts as well as the good ones. You have to accept the fact that you are after all, only human ,and that might make you feel weak.
But you are wrong. Knowing these things should make you feel strong. It should make you realize that the voices are just other versions of your personality. Why wouldn’t you have to learn how to interact with your own personality; it is just as important as learning to interact with the personalities of others.
In order to find happiness you have to learn how to take this power away from the people around you. You must learn how to live with yourself but this is just the beginning, learning how to let others live with you is step two.
Sometimes you don’t have a choice.
Sometimes failure just smacks you in the face.
No matter how you prepare or plan, life has a way of keeping things interesting that way. No matter how solid you think your foundation might be, there is always an earthquake brewing somewhere waiting to shake you from the foundation. Waiting to bring everything around you crumbling down in a moments notice.
Some people make it through life never having to face their 100 year stormbut some get to face them all too often.
Ours is not a choice of “if”, but more often than not a choice of “how”.
How will you react when your storm does hit because you cant buy insurance for that type of catastrophe.
The only thing you can do is learn how appreciate the scars because more often than not, they define who you are.
So you grind.
When life knocks you down, sometimes you just have to grind. Sometimes you just have to stay low, stay out of the way for a while and just survive.
These are the moments where we are reminded of how fragile our existence actually is.
This is when you discover how susceptible we truly are to the influence of the world around us.
In these moments you get to see how delicate the world can actually be ,but it is in these same moments when we most often find ourselves.
It is so often in these moments where we get tired of hiding from the world and become comfortable exposing our true selves to not only the world but to ourselves.
And then you find it.
Then you discover that even with the weight of the world on your back, you can make it.
You find out that even with the drag of depression, or the struggles of suicide, you can survive life.
You can decide to let the happiness find you. You can allow it to fill you and to flow through you completely.
It is in this moment that you discover your invincibility.
It is in this moment of desperation that you can show the world how strong you really are.
It is in this moment of weakness that our strength is truly tested and our resolve must be resurrected.
It is in this moment that we discover the true adventure of life, when we discover what this whole thing is really all about.
Fun because, once you have discover how to look this hurt in the face and still stand to hold your place, you will begin to see the emergence of real life super powers.
Powers you never knew you had.
The power to influence others and pass on the gift of happiness.
The power to pass on thought and move others through emotional empowerment, and the ability to help others understand their own path to happiness. A path you must explore for yourself. One we must all discover at our own pace.
Image Credit — Sumit Mantaporn