Have you ever met someone who just gets you… understands you… completes you?

Someone who, although you were in your darkest hour, made you feel like you were doing exactly what you were meant to do and being everything you were meant to be.

A person who free’d your heart from the shackles of shame and allowed you to begin living your life again. Someone who made you feel like you were in exactly the right place at exactly the right time and in that moment, nothing else mattered.

I can’t imagine it happens more than a few times through the course of our lives.

If we are lucky, we recognize the importance of this person before it is too late. But unfortunately, I feel like all-too-often, we are left looking back, wishing we had done more, wishing we had fought harder, plead stronger and held on longer.

“What do you do when this person leaves your life? How do you move forward?”

What if you were the one who walked away, knowing the pain you would cause and conversely have to endure?

What if you understood that the only way to move forward was to move on?

What if you were wrong?

I need you to know this.

In my darkest hour we met, and shortly thereafter, I left.

You might never know how much it hurt me, how many tears I spilled, wondering if I had made the right decision; the sleep I lost thinking about you.

The sleep I still lose thinking about you.

I don’t know if I will ever publish this but if I do and you happen to read it then I need you to know these things.

I will always love you!

I was so lost, wandering through life. Unwilling or unable to move past all that had happened before. Stuck, as if frozen in time, clinging to pain and darkness as if it was all I had left.

But, you knew the way. You taught me to forget. You replaced those memories.

You stood next to me when everyone else ran away. How will I ever express the debt I can never repay?

You fixed me. You rescued me from myself.

You didn’t reach down and try to pull me from the hole I was in, you climbed down and sat right next to me until I was ready to leave.

You showed me that no matter how hard it rained, we could always move past the pain.

You restored my hope in the world, pulled me back from the edge of a cliff and made me smile like I had never smiled before.

From the first time I saw you I loved you and you unlocked my heart with that first kiss.

You were exactly what I needed at exactly the right time.

I wish circumstances would have been different. Oh, what I would give to have things turn out differently but we both know that can never happen.

There is a part of my soul that will never heal from having let you into my life. I wonder if I will ever be able to feel completely whole again without that piece of me, but I would never ask for it back.

I would live in pain forever before risking an existence without the memory of you.

I am scared for the one who comes next.

I tell myself I am over you but part of me will always wait.

Like some sick romantic comedy I will move on, because that’s life, and eventually, time heals all pain, but you could come steal my heart at any time.

With one touch you could make me melt. I would be completely defenseless against your advance, and on that day, I would stand in the rubble and smile at having had one more moment with you.

I truly hope you are happy.

I hope you think of me on occasion.

Maybe one day our paths will cross again but for now I am going to try to forget you.

I am going to try to remember the worst of you so that I might have some chance at knowing happiness again.

But it will never work, I will never forget you.


17 replies
  1. luka
    luka says:

    man you described my love life in this article, i still could not belive it , it is like my toughts are on this page, the best article really , keep up with the good work

  2. Mike Trike
    Mike Trike says:

    Very well said. Mine is still in my life and frequent thoughts and I in her’s. Both by a kind of reluctant choice. We just can not be together regardless of our desire to be together. This is a decades long story.

  3. Tanya
    Tanya says:

    This spoke to me, it happened to me and three months ago I got my chance again with the one that got away. I love your writing…thankyou for sharing!

  4. Sumit
    Sumit says:

    Seriously bro things between us was over long ago and I hope that our paths will never cross again haha… Great material bro I may end up being the only guy saying this but it was absolutely beautiful.

    • Raymmar
      Raymmar says:

      Thank You Amber. You were my first of those people FYI! Haha. Did this just get awkward? But seriously, thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. I always wonder about sharing the more personal things I write, but it always ends up being my best work. Probably because when I write this stuff I am just writing for myself. It is better than therapy honestly. Everyone should write!

      • Amber Duncan
        Amber Duncan says:

        Honestly, I’m just so proud of how far you’ve come. It hurt to see you falling into such a dark place back then and it makes me happy to see you doing well now. Keep it up… the personal, the enlightening, and even the outrageous posts. Do whatever makes you happy and one day love isn’t gonna be able to resist that goofy face of yours ;-)

      • Raymmar
        Raymmar says:

        Awwe Shucks! Thanks for such kind words. That is pretty much how I decide what comes next. Does it make ma smile? “Yep”. Will it piss people off? “Yep” – “Ok lets do it”!

        Thanks for making me laugh today and thanks for subscribing. They aint seen nothin yet!

      • Raymmar Tirado
        Raymmar Tirado says:

        Anna, I am not sure the pain really ever goes away. There is always the possibility of that pain coming back up and biting us in the ass. But you do get better at living with it and eventually it loses its power over you!

        thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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